Listen y'all. If a man truly likes and respects you, and if he's truly a HVM, he will NOT comment on other women around you. He will not check out other women around you. You will never have to doubt that you're his first and only choice. Doesn't matter if the most beautiful supermodel is standing in front of you. He will still make it known that you're his #1.

I find myself frustrated, as per usual, by the dating advice I see being given online and also in real life. Scrotes and pick mes around the world seem to try to gaslight us into thinking that we should be alright with our man gawking at and commenting on the beauty of other women while we just sit there quietly with a smile on our face because "that's just how men are", "men are just ViSuAL creatures", and to avoid being labeled as "insecure".

Not only does this usually make the OTHER woman extremely uncomfortable if she notices or hears, but it also makes you feel uncomfortable too. You ask him not to say things like that, you ask him to maybe keep that thought about that woman's ass to himself next time. You CoMmUnIcAtE with him.

At best, he gives you a half hearted apology and says that he'll do better (though he will always fall back into old behavior eventually). At worst... he calls you InSeCuRe.

You ask friends and family for advice. You ask the internet for advice. Everyone tells you you're being insecure! Yeah he was oogling at the waitresses boobs throughout the whole dinner. Yeah he made a comment on how your friend is a hottie. Yeah he told that cashier that she has beautiful eyes right in front of you. But but, people tell you it's natural for a man to find other women attractive! You're warned to stop nagging him and to just be the cool girl or else you'll be seen as insecure and he'll leave you for someone else. "He ChOsE yOu!!!"

Men will tell you "oh just because we look, it doesn't mean that we actually want her." Lol, nah. From my experience in my own relationships and also observing others relationships, a man who blatantly gawks at other women in front of you is either:

• Trying to neg you and bring down your self esteem

• Is unfulfilled in the relationship and settling for you, but doesn't want to break up with you because he doesn't want to be alone

Also from my experience, men DO actually want to be with these women, but they know that they will never have a chance with any of them. He didn't CHOOSE you. He's settling for you. And girl you deserve better. Because you best believe that if he suddenly felt like he DID have a chance with these women he fawned over in front of you, he'd be gone.

In my experience, a HVM will never make you feel uncomfortable or disrespect you in ANY way when other pretty women are around you. Of course, it's natural to be attracted to other people!! But that's not what this is about. It's not natural to constantly give in to that attraction when you have a partner.

And trust me, men know this. They hate when women give them this same treatment. I've heard countless stories where a woman is fed up with how her scrote BF acts around other women, and so she starts acting the same way around other men. This usually results in her scrote BF throwing a temper tantrum because he can't handle it and knows that he's being disrespected.

So now this is what I tell any woman who will listen to me...

It's not about INSECURITY. It's about RESPECT.

And you deserve respect. So if a scrote acts this way around you, just leave. There are HVM out there who know how to treat their woman with respect no matter who they're around. Don't waste your breath on him, don't spend time explaining to him how he's hurt your feelings... he knows how he's disrespecting you, he just doesn't care. Walk away from men like this and don't look back!