View men as invaders and parasites until proven otherwise.

If men can label every woman as a gold digger until she proves herself and be fine with chill dates and grab a Coffee/pay for her own meal then you can do it too. If a man has to come home tired and hungry from work and there is no food on the table and nothing is done in the household because the Wife sat on her ass all day after work playing video games then all his friends and family would tell him to part ways from that gold digging parasite but when a man wants to do the same thing it’s justified or you’ll end up alone with cats. Ignore men who moan that he’ll help out, or work together with you aka 50/50 where you’ll do 80% and he does the bare minimum.

He wants to gain access in your life and bed so he should make himself useful, he should prove himself, not the other way around. His existence should benefit you. If he starts to become fussy then you already know what to do.

What else can a man do for you besides love bombing until the mask slips and shows his true colours If he’s not even actively working to enrich your life?

Willing and doing are two different things, doing speaks louder than words and willing isn’t the same as taking action.

Stop using love as an excuse to choose a man, choose a man by using your head.