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Ugly men won't treat you better.
Poor men won't treat you better.
Short men won't treat you better.
Fat men won't treat you better.
Bald men won't treat you better.
Nerdy men won't treat you better.
Uneducated men won't treat you better.
Unemployed men won't treat you better.
Physically disabled/mentally ill men won't treat you better.
If any of the above traits are deal-breakers for you, let them stay deal-breakers! Unlike women, men don't tend to cultivate HV traits to compensate for "undesirability" in other areas—in fact, many men develop an inferiority complex about their perceived unattractiveness that only makes them less appealing to be around (e.g., the incel movement). The only factors relevant to a man being HV are his character and his behavior, but not every HV man will be the right one for you. If a man doesn't meet your physical/financial/social standards, don't feel pressured to "just give him a chance," give yourself the best chance at happiness by refusing to compromise on what you're genuinely seeking in a partner.
Keep vetting and don't settle. You deserve so much more than that. 👑
Undesirable men know they are undesirable. They will judge you and look down on you for dating him.
He will also get a massive confidence boost and believe he can do better. Best case scenario, he will leave you to pursue a woman he perceives as better.
Worst case scenario, he is aware he can't really do better, but will still look down on you anyway, and will treat you poorly for it.
My tallest, hottest, most industrious boyfriends have treated me the best. Versus shorter, dad bod, broke guys.
I just had my heart broken by someone who is far below my usual physical standards. It hurts just as badly but I have the added sting of knowing that I had hesitations going into it and overlooked them.
YES! Aaaand, please ladies also kn ow that the opposite is also true. Just because a man is good looking/tidy/clean/well groomed, rich, tall, healthy, fit, educated, employed, and able bodied DOES NOT automatically GUARANTEE that he will treat you RIGHT. Men at all socio economic statuses and echelons can be, and are, LV, or at worst, can be abusive. Do not let your compassion for less blind you. And, do not let the glamour or potential of more blind you. VET VET VET.
LVm/ZVM exist at all levels and are the norm.
Ugly men won't fix your self-esteem.
Pre-FDS me bought into the false narrative that ugly men will be grateful for a beautiful woman. When dating IRL, I found that the uglier the man, the more abusive and horrific he was. Ugly men take all their insecurities out on you.
Storytime:The ugliest guy I dated turned out to have NPD and even got physically violent. He would lash out and claim that I probably thought the most awful things about his physical appearance. I never thought those things, I was so confused as I always complimented and encouraged him. I didn't realize he was projecting his thoughts of himself onto me. He probably thinks everyone views him through that same lens of his own insecurities. I find MOST attractive men to be kind and gentle towards me. My ex scrote was desi and I'm half desi. I later came to find out that every single girl who was introduced to him for an arranged marriage proposal outright rejected him. I think these women who were born and raised in India probably picked up on his character better than I did and all rejected him. I was super young when I met him, And there was an age gap. Apparently I was the first girl not to reject him *facepalm.* He told me he fully expected a rejection from me because he thought I was too incredibly beautiful to want him in any way. He used my beauty as an ego boost but it ultimately made him insecure and he was monstrous to deal with. He even started body shaming me saying stuff like he hated my tan skin and preferred white girls with white skin anyway. And he preferred a skinnier girls etc. I am not insecure about my skin tone but I know he wanted to annihilate my self esteem (it didn't work) because colorisim is extremely problematic in the desi community to the point where girls in India even commit suicide because they're made to feel so self conscious about their beautiful dark skin. Bollywood, etc only hires white looking brown girls. Not a representation of how most of the country even looks. This ugly scrote started a whole racially abusive attack on me. The internalzed racism on his part was astounding.
I understand that good looking guys can be jerks too but from my experience that's rarely been the case. I've always been treated terribly by ugly men. Most good looking guys I've met tend to already be married, in an exclusive relationship and generally good with talking to women.
In conclusion you are more likely to get abused and traumatized from dealing with the insecurities of ugly men.
Amen.
The first part should be read like the choir intro to "You can't always get what you want" by the Rolling Stones
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