To all mothers of teen daughters, never leave your daughters alone at their boyfriend’s houses, even if the parents are home.

I’m so sorry that happened to you.

Those monsters deserve to spend the rest of their lives in prison.

Disgusting degenerate scum.

I will never understand why a mother would do this.

I’m so sorry that happened to you.

You’re right

Its cope.

My mother frequently used that term for herself when it came to things like this.

Its just neglect

Yeah I understand strict parenting can create sneaky children. The problem is the media overestimates and normalizes how much teens are actually having sex.

I can see your point if it’s an either or situation. If they’re going to be having sex anyway it might as well be under your roof so you can make sure things don’t escalate past a certain point.

An either or circumstance is the exception though. (Making the best out of an unfortunate situation)

The issue is that the daughter might interpret this as you approving of or enabling this. If something bad happens or she regrets it afterwards theres likely to be some confusion or resentment later down the line.

Usually children and teens only flee when they feel unsafe, are in a chaotic home, have helicopter parents, feel misunderstood or unloved, are neglected or are being abused.

If you combine that with strict parenting, then the children will be much less likely to trust your judgment. They’re more likely to rebel or go off on their own. They’re more likely to seek people that they perceive as more competent and safe.

I personally don’t believe minors should have sex at all because minors cannot consent no matter the context.

Minors do not have the financial resources to raise a child either. Birth control can lead to permanent hormonal disruption or side effects. I don’t believe teens (especially teenage girls in these circumstances because of pregnancy/pills) can fully consent to a decision that could potentially affect their entire life and physical health.

Condoms don’t cause those effects but I don’t like the idea of putting trust in a teenage boy. Condoms are used incorrectly all the time, not to mention stealthing exists or simply incorrectly storing them. (Like leaving the condoms in a hot car or folded in a wallet)

I think teens should have other age appropriate and more reasonable freedoms that actually benefit them. Like:

• The right to choose what career they want,

• The right to choose how they want to spend their money,

• The right to be involved with extracurriculars at school and the right to choose which extracurriculars they want to do

• The right to get involved in their favorite hobbies, subjects, passions and interests

• The right to their own opinion

• The right to choose what and when they eat (to a reasonable extent)

• The right to choose what to wear. (As long as its age appropriate)

• The right to pick out their own hairstyles

• The right to having physical boundaries and privacy (knocking on their door before entering and not forcing hugs on them)

• The right to having things that are theirs. A lot of parents seem to think its okay to throw away/sell/destroy their children’s stuff without asking them simply because the “parents paid for it” or because the child is “living under their roof”

• The right to free-time/being alone so they can recharge.

• The right to learn essential survival skills: Cooking, cleaning, driving, finances, job applications, socializing

Ect.

Its very unusual for a child in a healthy, safe environment that respects their autonomy to flee because they want to have sex.

When a minor (especially a female) runs off to have sex with someone it’s usually because they’re with a partner that promises safety, understanding and stability. (Basically they’re being manipulated or feel desperate)

The motivation is not lust driven.

Lust can be an aspect of it but it’s not the main or sole motive.

I agree! Teenage girls tend to take relationships very seriously whereas most teenage boys are just looking to lose their virginity and any girl will do. This is why I think that for girls, there is very little benefit to dating in your teenage years. There are so many risks e.g. teenage pregnancy, being used for sex, and the odds of the relationship actually lasting are almost zero.

Even in the rare circumstances when the teenage boy is genuinely in it for the long haul, a lack of sex shouldn’t be a dealbreaker for him.

If he genuinely loves her then he would still be willing to stick around. He would still enjoy hanging out with her, talking to her and going on dates with her.

I hate how society pressures young girls into having sex in order to “keep him around.”

I mean even if that myth was true then shouldn’t that be even more of a reason for them to not have sex with these scrotes? A girls future and wellbeing shouldn’t be dependent on whether or not a male finds her attractive or if he feels “satisfied.”

Exactly! If the boy is in it for the long haul then why the rush? Why not wait until you've both left school or are college-age to have sex?! They don't want to wait because they're not planning on hanging around. They're just using these girls for practice.