The Ultimate Red Flag List 🚩

Hello ladies! I love lists, especially ones that can help other people. So today I wrote a list of things that you should NOT tolerate in a man, things that should automatically be a block and delete. Below is an organized list of such LV behavior. If there are any red flags I missed you can add some of yours in the comment section!

Mental Health -

• Does not seek professional help when he needs it. Thinks therapy is something “crazy” people do, and instead treats you as his own personal therapist.

• Trauma dumps you, expects you to listen to these dumps when you guys literally just had one date.

• Bottles up his emotions. Doesn’t handle them in a safe, healthy way, which can lead him to lash his anger onto you and others.

• Blames his depression, ADHD, autism, etc, for his terrible behavior and not holding himself accountable.

• Does not put in the work to better himself: like going to therapy, taking medications when needed, making goals.

• Has unhealthy ways to de stress, like excessive drinking, excessive video games, etc.

Physical Health -

• Doesn’t eat properly: only eats take out, microwaved dinners, junk food, etc.

• Doesn’t properly hydrate himself, only drinks soft drinks or energy drinks.

• Never washes his hands after using the restroom, before eating meals, while handling raw food, going outside, etc.

• Doesn’t give his body the nutrients and vitamins that are needed, like not taking his vitamins or eating good food.

• Skips out on important vaccines and shots, like the COVID one.

• Does not follow basic health regulations.

• Has any sort of substance addiction (drugs, alcohol, etc).

• Does not get the proper amount of physical activity.

• Gets little to no sleep, has no proper sleep schedule.

• Does not go to the doctor or dentist, skips out on important appointments or never listens to his doctor’s advice. Expects you to make them for him as if you were his mommy.

• Does not take his sexual health seriously. Never tests if he has STD’s, uses protection, is the community dick, etc. Expects you to be solely responsible for the birth control in the relationship.

• Is not responsible for any allergies, never researches them and makes you do all of the work for him.

• Does not stay home when he is sick, in which he not only endangers you but also other people. Uses you as a personal nurse when he is sick and acts like a big baby (IE the man cold or flu 🤡)

Physical Appearance -

• Ignores dental hygiene, doesn’t brush his teeth, floss, and/or use mouth wash. Never goes to the dentist. Has terrible breath.

• Doesn’t use chapstick if he has chapped/dry lips.

• Never washes his face and does not take proper care of his skin.

• Skips out on the showers, thinks washing his ass is “gay”, never uses soap or body wash and just uses water.

• Does not take proper care of his hair: has a messy or terrible hairstyle that doesn’t suit him, never gets it trimmed or cut, etc.

• Has unkempt facial hair.

• Does not take care of his nails. He never cuts them or removes any dirt or grime.

• Literally reeks, thinks axe body spray replaces a good shower, skips out on the deodorant.

• Does not wear nice clothes that suit and flatter him, does not dress for the occasion (like wearing at home clothes for a wedding or nice dinner), wears too big or too small clothes, wears clothes that are dirty, smelly, or with holes in them (think of underwear and soaks) . Has dirty shoes.

• If he has glasses he never cleans them or makes sure they are safe.

Physical Space -

• Does not have his own place to call home and still lives with his parents after a certain age (like late teens and early 20s I can understand, since college and all that). If in his 30s it’s literally a no go.

• Does not have a reliable source of transportation (whether that be a car, subway, Uber or Lyft, buses, etc), and instead relies on you or others to be his Uber service. Not a safe or good driver.

• Never cleans up after himself, makes you tidy up after him as if he were a two year old.

• Has a messy home, nothing is organized, literally never cleans his home or have a cleaning routine.

• Does not take pride in his home, does not have furniture or nice decor (literally sleeping on a mattress and having only having a TV after living there for a year).

• His car is always dirty, messy, never takes it to get clean or repaired.

Free Time and Entertainment

• Has no enriching hobbies to speak of, only plays video games, scroll online, watches YouTube, etc.

• Watches any sort of corn (PH, OF, follows Instagram models and cosplayers, thirst traps, sexual ASMR, no nut November challenges on YouTube, hentai, rule 34, goes to strip clubs, Hooter’s, Twin Peaks, etc).

• Watches overly violent and sexual shows and movies.

• Plays overly violent and sexual video games.

• Calls himself a “gamer”, plays video games for hours a day everyday.

• Watches sexual and fan service anime, anything that sexualizes little girls and minors (which is literally most anime tbh).

• Consumes any material that is bigoted.

• Thinks drinking beer, smoking, doing drugs, etc are personality traits.

• Addicted to social media and his phone, computer, etc.

• The type of music he listens to is degrading and overly sexual.

• Reads books written by JP and other men like him.

• Consumes MGTOW, Red Pill, Black Pill, Alt Right, Libfem material.

• Thinks rape, Holocaust, 9/11, etc jokes are “funny”.

• Just stays in his room all day not trying anything new or going out to experience things.

• Goes trophy hunting - only hunts for the thrill of it and getting “trophies” for their work as if they are Gaston.

Education -

• Does not have the education or training needed for a good career.

• Does not put in the work for school, like attending classes on time, paying attention in class, asking questions, actually doing the work, turning in stuff on time, studying, being organized, taking good notes, going to tutoring when needed.

• Never reads books or tries to learn new things.

• Brags about his “elite” education, talks about how better he is over you or other people just for going to Harvard or something.

• Makes you do his school work or remind him anything he needs to do.

• Makes YOU pay for his school when he should do all of that himself.

• Cheats on tests and quizzes.

Career -

• Is underemployed or unemployed.

• Works in a terrible environment that doesn’t support worker’s rights or treats them well.

• Never tries to do better or seek promotions.

• Really lazy at his job, only does the barest of the bare minimum. Expects other people (especially women) to pick up his slack.

• Never tries to learn or study new things about his career to be better at his job.

• Is a workaholic.

• Never works and expects you to work.

• Treats his coworkers and customers like garbage.

• Does not have any boundaries at work.

• Quits his job because he didn’t “feel like it” and not because of terrible management or has found a better job.

Finances -

• Not good with money at all. Never saves his money for retirement or emergencies, never spends wisely (wants over needs), really stingy with his money especially with you.

• Never pays his bills and taxes on time. Expects you to pay for them because he always “forgets”.

• Wants to go 50/50 on things.

• Never or hardly ever pays for dates.

• Never buys you anything or if he does only the cheapest things ever.

• Only spends money on himself, only leaving you with scraps.

• Relies on mommy and daddy for money, or worse YOU.

• Has loads of debt that he isn’t working on paying off.

• Lies about his salary to you.

• Makes you help pay off his debts because y’all are “a team 🥺”.

• Does not have a provider mindset, expects you to pamper him and pay for everything because ✨feminism✨.

• Pays money to terrible organizations and people.

• Never helps pay for you for anything.

• Never pays back anyone that he borrowed money from.

• Doesn’t care about holidays and birthdays AKA would not spend a dime on your special day.

Politics and Religion -

• Is a bigot. Is misogynistic, homophobic, ableist, racist, etc. Supports politicians and people who are like that.

• Does not believe marginalized groups are treated less fairly than privileged groups. Thinks them having more rights gives him “less” rights.

• Believes in Not All Men, Straight Pride, All Lives Matter, MAPs rights (🤮).

• Thinks climate change is fake or believes humans made no part of it.

• Does not believe in basic welfare for people (IE he thinks poor people should just “get a job”).

• Believes sex work and corn is “empowering” and not damaging towards women and girls.

• If not religious he sexualizes your religion if your religious (corn seems to love sexualizing Muslim women 🤢), thinks he is superior over other people just because he is not religious, doesn’t criticize aspects of religions but instead just makes fun of religious people.

• If religious he shoves his beliefs down yours or other people’s throat, forces you or others to believe in what he believes, doesn’t believe in science, a part of a ultra backwards church, doesn’t use his religion for helping others, have a relationship with his God or gods, or for good but instead uses it to oppress others or be a bigot, doesn’t see what dark stuff people of his religion did or is capable of and doesn’t try to do better or encourage others to as well, does not call out bad people that are a part of his religion, cherry picks texts in whatever religious book he reads, acts all holier than thou, a total hypocrite, doesn’t support people having the right to be a part of other religions or not religious.

• Supports alt right, libfem politicians and groups.

• Does not support worker’s rights and safety.

• Does not support gun control.

• Does not support helping nations in need.

• Openly supports war for no reason other than for just war.

• Not a feminist or just a libfem.

• Thinks threatening other people is “free speech”.

• Gets pissy and dangerous when his political candidate doesn’t win (IE see Jan 6 riot).

• Believes in dangerous political conspiracy theories.

Relationships With Others -

• Does not take the male role in taking the first move. Doesn’t text or call first, ask you out, plan for dates, etc.

• His idea of a date is walking, going to McDonald’s, Netflix and chill, going to Starbucks, etc.

• Never plans thoughtful dates and instead let’s you do all of the mental work.

• Expects nudes from you and sends unsolicited dick pics.

• Expects you to be his mommy mcbangmaid.

• Expects you to be his placeholder gf, Barbra the builder, until he finds “ThE OnE”.

• Never proposes to you after a couple of years, makes you his forever gf, thinks marriage is just “a piece of paper”.

• A cheater (emotionally, physically, they are all trash).

• Hurts you in anyway shape in form. If he breaks an object in front of you in anger it’s physical abuse.

• Emotionally abuses you and gaslights you.

• Makes fun of you in a “playful” way but is actually being a bully.

• Calls you degrading names like b*tch, sl*t, wh*re, etc.

• Any type of neg.

• Steals yours or other people’s stuff and money.

• Never makes any effort with you or any other people in his life.

• Has no boundaries with anyone in his life.

• Does not listen to your boundaries.

• Never makes or tries to make you cum.

• Only cares about his orgasm and his orgasm only.

• Never gives you oral but expects it from you all the time.

• Any type of cornsex or expects of it from you, expects you to be his personal porn star.

• Literally into the kink, BDSM, and fetish life.

• Guilt trips you into having sex with him (aka rape).

• Is poly, wants an open relationship (code for for CHEATING)

• Still in contact with his exes.

• A terrible family member and friend, does not respect them or love them in any way and only uses them for his own benefit.

• Still keeps in contact with bad family members and friends, stands with them even when they are terrible people.

• A taker and not a giver.

• Never there emotionally for you or his loved ones.

• Never seems to want to spend with you, goes hot and cold, ghosts you.

• Yells at you or loses his temper with you in anyway.

• Never stands up for you.

• Uses his phone too much when you guys are together (like texting someone while you are talking to him).

• Doesn’t want to protect you and make sure you are safe (especially him not checking if you made it home safe after a date).

• Controlling of you, never lets you make your own decisions and choices.

• Gaslights you in anyway shape or form.

• Never wants to listen to your point of view, thinks he is always in the right.

• Is not a good father, expects you to do all of the parenting because it’s a “women’s job”, only wants to be the “fun parent”, has no idea what his children likes or dislikes or what their teacher’s are.

• A terrible pet owner. Never gives them enough outside or walking time, doesn’t give them enough love or affection, hardly feeds them or gives them clean water, skips out on grooming and vet visits, hardly or never plays with them, expects you to take care of his pets.

• Hates animals (it’s ok to not like a certain animal or if they have allergies but if you REALLY hate a certain animal like cats there is a problem).

• Hates children (it’s ok to not want children or not want to be around them but if he REALLY hates them it’s a problem).

• Lies to you about anything, hides things from you.

• Doesn’t want to take care of you, especially when you are sick.

• Expects you to be happy and cheerful all of the time.

• Talks trash about you or others behind your or their backs.

• Into gossip.

• A Darren.

• Complains and is negative with you or others all of the time.

• Really envious of you or others.

• Tries to make you look bad, take away the spotlight from you, sabotage your efforts to get better.