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This wasn’t intended as a list of red flags rather an exploration of relationship dynamics and make strategies to maintain the patriarchy. However, if you read closely, you will soon recognize the behaviors we all see in the men we have dated. A lot of these are the behaviors you seen in r/breakingmom and the relationship advice world. Many of them are easy to observe in the seemingly happy marriages all around you. It really gave me a perspective and helped me reframe LV behavior as something fundamentally ingrained in them and everyone around you working to keep it that way. It’s so much easier to walk away when you see it for what it is. I also feel some sort of closer about my late father and all of the ways he was both a good man who provided well and took us camping and also shitty selfish abusive husband/father
https://sosiaalikeskus.wordpress.com/everyday-male-chauvinism/
I'm still reading it, but the word "understanding" keeps popping up as something the man demands the woman to be. "You're not being understanding" "it's what an understanding wife would do" I am intensely against being complimented for being "understanding" because it felt like being pet on the head for being a good, compliant little girl that puts up with their shit. I thought I was overreacting, but turns out I was onto something
Thank you! That's an amazing list. I found this book, it's available in pdf. There seem to be lots of other good stuff on that website. http://www.stop-ferfieroszak.hu/en/everyday-male-chauvinism
definitely worth bookmarking