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The mark of a fully mature man is that he is a very centered, very balanced man.
He is someone who is very sure of himself and very comfortable in his own skin.
He doesn't need outside validation, doesn't need to show off to the world, and doesn't need to prove himself.
He is someone who have faith in himself and knows what he want, and without any excuse go after his goals.
He has discipline, he has structure, he has plans, he has actions. But he also understands that some things are just out of his control, and he doesn't blame anyone or anything when things go south.
He is someone that seeks solution when problems are presented, and doesn't waste time drowning in negativity.
When he is tired, he rest, he doesn't whine or complain or blame. And after he is done resting, he is up again doing what he needs to do.
But he is also humble and down-to-earth, his feet is firmly rooted on the ground. He is a very, very quietly confident man but in no way, shape, or form is he a smug man. Smugness is a sign of insecurity after all.
When you meet him, when you date him - it is like going into a very robustly build house. The structure is strong and sound, the build is safe and reliable - he has the ability to make you feel safe and secure, just by being himself. And as women, we are the one that turns that robust house into a peaceful comfy home.
Just by observing him, allowing yourself to be taken care of by him, being around him - you feel balanced, centered, safe and secure. As women we are susceptible to mood swing due to stress and all that - he sort of become an anchor that guide us back to that calm, peaceful state.
If at any point in time, the man you are dating makes you feel off-balance, not centered, uncomfortable, confused - basically if he cause any type of not good, very very bad feeling no matter how small, he is not a fully mature man. If he is not secure with himself - he is going to drag you down into his insecurity. Run sis.
Stay safe.
The smug narc smirk is such a dead giveaway to me now. I don't care if it's a singular expression, it says so much about his lack of character.