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I've recently had a wardrobe clear out, and listed items on buy/sell sites. The amount of creepy/perverted contact I've had from men has been ridiculous. (Mainly Facebook marketplace, which given the nature of the site I'm not surprised)
Some tips:
Be mindful of selling/listing shoes. Don't post pics with shoes worn. Feet obsessed freaks galore.
Underwear that's new. Better off not selling.
Facebook marketplace includes home/public place meet-ups. Only arrange when others are at home. And anything with a male buyer, casually mention that your Dad/brother/whoever will open the door because you might not be in.
Don't post outfit pics of items you're selling.
Don't give out your full address if home pickup until they're on your road. Better yet, meet away from your home.
Make-up, other women's clothes.. mindful of cross-dressers, trans people (no hate.. this is a tip for female safety from males)
Anything expensive etc, make sure someone else is present and use PayPal/bank transfer only
Check profile when someone messages, lots of fake accounts of men pretending to be women for pictures, creepy messages. If the profile has few friends, it's fake. Or profile pics of random things or people that don't match up to the ethnicity of the name.
Sexting/weird messages in the form of asking for pics of the clothes tried on, size Q's (can tell when they're weird, seem out of place)
Try and avoid using your personal account if on FB, an anonymous/other account is better
Avoid all this hassle of FB marketplace/selling and give to charity 🤣 (I had too many new clothes that no longer fit so had to!)
There are female only groups for swaps and resell. You can also stick to online resell (shipping, not letting them come for pickup)
I’m fortunate enough to have a consignment shop that accepts donations in my city. They‘ll even write up a receipt for your taxes.
I've been using marketplace apps and things like that for a long time for sustainability reasons and it's really hit and miss. There are a lot of entitled and crazy people out there and they are not just men. One woman once demanded that I let her come into my house and try every item on and then pick the ones she wants when I was giving away a bag of clothes for free. Another completely normal looking woman who came to pick up an end table I didn't need anymore started to demand that I give her other furniture in my home as well and got really annoying when I told her nothing else was for sale. And no, if you pick something up at my home, I will not offer you coffee and not let you use my toilet.
A few rules I follow:
- my username and the pictures I use of things do not reveal that I am a woman and I phrase my messages that way, too
- I do not give anyone my phone number and all messaging and scheduling happens in writing in the app
- I do not ship stuff, you pick it up in person and pay cash or no deal, there are too many scammers out there
- The address I give people is the address of a small shop in my street, we meet there and then walk a few steps to my home if they need to pick up something I can't move by myself
- I am never alone when I pick something up somewhere or people come to me (there is always at least someone waiting in the car for me)
- and a controversial one: I only respond to polite messages written in my native language with proper grammar and punctuation and full sentences. If you are rude, try to lowball or pressure me in any way, do not respond quickly or try to move the conversation off the app, no deal.
"Hello, I am really interested in X, is it still available? I could pick it up on the weekend. I would love to hear from you!" is not that hard or time consuming to write.
I use Poshmark, perhaps you might find better luck there or from something similar? I have only ever had women buy my things and bought things from women, so have never had an issue. Just watch out for scam artists who try to ask you to go offsite, but that's a general rule for all internet.
Thanks for these tips! Savvy.
I have some household items I need to sell and I only ant to deal with women. Men are real creeps sometimes, and for some reason the creeps really do come out when selling 2nd hand goods. I hope I can find some good buyers on a female buy/swap/sell similar page as another commenter mentioned. I saw a local one but it's very smalll, only a few hundred members for my entire city....