Put men on life time probation as a vetting tool

This works 80% of the time and if It doesn't it at least saves you from pain 100%.

Don't give second chances, don't take him back.

Rudness, name calling, aggressiveness, passive aggressive, belittling, manplaining, bitching about that you should have communicated, unwanted criticism, scolding, neglect towards the relationship, forgetting things but not forget the things he wants, choosing friends over you, change plans with you because of friends coming over unanounced means goodbye, There isn't a single man on this planet that doesn't know that he is being rude,invasive or had no idea he is in the wrong or displayed bad behavior.

Men are at their best behavior when you can walk out any time with no problem, only when you grow attached to them is where they feel comfortable enough to hurt you. And it's not some men, It's all men.

All men will mistreat or oversaddle a doormat because they can.The women who are loyal and forgiving towards them are the one's who are treated the worst by every single man.

So what if he thinks you are a bitch for being this way, or his peers? You're a bigger bitch to yourself for tolerating his crap. in the long run you are the on the shortest end of the stick and that's the biggest L a woman can get.

Even if he always showed good behavior for years and today he was in a foul mood is never an excuse to turn a blind eye, one wrong move and he should pay the consiquences of that. It doesn't matter if the mask slips today or after 40 years it has slipped so you know what to do. Probation is not putting his good and bad deed on a scale and see what outweighs the other to decide if forgiveness is deserved, It's to make sure he never behaves in a way that makes you unloved.

Remember, most dudes don't have the balls to end things with you and they will be mean, dismissive and uninterested until you pull out the plug, If you hold on the good years and stay put for months he will feel guilty and love bomb you for a day and then go cold again. And with the life time probation rule it's over as soon as he starts acting out. With that you are saving yourself from pain and heart ache holding on to a man that wants you to do the dirty work of ending things feeding the statistics that women file for divorce most of the times.

It's better to regret leaving a man behind because he hurt or disrespected you than regret not leaving him behind and you got tossed to the side anyway because he tried everything to make you go away.

You will never know men enough to know for sure that it will never happen again, or that he is sincere with his regret, or that he will indeed change so it's better to be ruthless in vetting than be lenient towards men.