Please don't waste your time with feminine men. I'm so serious

I'm not physically attracted to feminine men anyway.

The belief that they're "non threatening" or "less likely to be misogynistic" is a total lie. No, they're just way more comfortable with using passive aggressive tactics.

They're master manipulators. They'll pretend to be all meek and all sensitive just so they can stab women in the back later.

Cowards.

I mean if I'm gonna be opening myself up to a relationship with a potentially dangerous man I'd rather at least see a threat coming head on rather than finding out 4+ years later and having my time wasted.

A friend married an effeminate man, he's fully living off her paychecks and now he's adamant everyone calls him they.

You might be on the money here.

They don't even need to dress in a feminine way either; it's all about their energy, if that makes sense. My mother always commented on my past boyfriends and how each one of them was too feminine or seemed gay. At the time, I always defended my partners and found my mother's comments to be rude (she is narcisistic and can never be happy for me). But now, I see that she was absolutely right. I think men in this era have progressively become more feminine. They are the types of men (manchildren) who preach for going 50/50 and dream about women making the first move and leading their relationships. They whine about their struggles and want you to baby them, meanwhile are not able or willing to support you or be your rock. They have lots of female "friends" (probably including their exes) because they cannot survive without the ego boost they get from female validation. They will have "nice guy syndrome" and complain about getting friendzoned because they are too cowardly to ever make their intentions known. They will not add any value to your life.

Thanks for the reminder.

This is particularly relevant advice for young women living in big cities in the U.S. Many effeminate men are on the down low, and 21st-century Western-style liberal feminism has taught us it's "homophobic", "transphobic", "discriminatory", "backwards", etc. to be unwilling to date a man who isn't totally heterosexual.

I have my issues with Western-style masculinity, but escaping into the arms of effeminate men is like jumping from one fire pit to another.

All feminine straight men I've met are covert narcissist. They wear pink because they feel like they're "special". They always share some sort of sob stories when they first met you. They are always sad and need your attention 24/7. Nope.

i used to like men like that, but lately i've noticed they fetishize female assertiveness and mistake it for dominance, and they tend to be completelyuseless and disfunctional, leaving all the work for the woman. she makes all the decisions, she pays all the bills, she solves all the problems, she controls everything. then they complain she is too controlling and wants everything her way, and she has a "difficult" personality. they pretend to admire women who take action (and initiative) when in fact they want a woman who does everything while they do absolutely nothing. that's such a turn off. no wonder many women are going back to desiring a manly man.

The issue I have with feminine men is that most of them are no more emotionally intelligent than other men but they also tend to be rubbish at traditionally masculine stuff like DIY. They also tend not to have a provider mindset. In other words, they don't really have anything to offer in a relationship and for that reason alone I prefer not to date them. A lot of them are very whiny as well and will expect you to put in large amounts of emotional labour, which they will never reciprocate. I tend to give these men a pass.

I used to love feminine men. But all 3 feminine men I dated were on the down low with other men. Now it's a red flag, where before it was a quality I purposely looked for. Sigh.

As someone who's previous boyfriend came out as a TIM...yeah, avoid it if you can. Physically he wasn't that feminine and I think his issue was more related to other mental health factors plus pornsickness but yeah. I don't need a man to be a big burly brute and extremely hardline following every masculine stereotype...but if his femininity comes with an undertone of "See? I'm a good, evolved man!" then run.

The sassy man apocalypse is upon us and it's absurd.

I'm glad you made this post. I almost forgot about this because it's so obvious, but I'm sure there are women who are new to FDS that probably never really gave this much thought, especially now that men are being encouraged to dress feminine.

Lawlessness is never satisfied. Don't budge on your inherent moral framework no matter how far into degenracy the world falls.