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This category shouldn't even need to be here, but that could be this forum's slogan. Both my education and work experience are in healthcare so I also refuse to sit by and watch someone neglect their health for decades, knowingly causing themselves (expensive) problems later in life.
For the sake of my health, just no:
anti-contraception
untreated mental illness or other health conditions
obese/sedentary
cigarette smokers
BO/poor hygiene
alcoholics/drug addicts
steroid users (body builders)
refuses to/fails to produce a recent clean STI test
individuals with lots of unprocessed traumas
chronic condition/comorbidity self-caused by abuse/neglect
disgusted by periods/bodily functions
health-obsessed to the point of it being its own mental illness/self control/self discipline/self punishment exercise
fad dieters/dieters who need me to be on the same diet for them to succeed
implies I need to eat less/be thinner, or sees dating someone not model-thin as a downgrade/sacrifice
poor diet and/or refuses to eat vegetables
doesn't go to the dr regularly/refuses to go to the dr
believes "their body can fight everything off" and therefore doesn't clean, take meds for anything, take precautions/vaccines etc
sleep disorder (untreated), self sleep-deprivers
people who don't believe in basic protective equipment when playing sports (ie helmet, life jacket, safety harness) no matter their skill/experience
*bonus: I thought of more
sleeps on an old mattress/pillow/sheets
owns a pair of running shoes that either due to age or smell should be burned
pet mess/smell overwhelming the living space
dirty fridge full of rotting/expired food
overflowing/smelly trash
bedroom smells bad (bo/sex etc)
Last category is personal :P so basically my grab bag of what doesn't fall under the other five categories. Full disclosure, not sure what or when I'll be posting after next week, so we'll see if I come up with anything!
Other categories of undateables:
Good list. I would just like to add:
Men who drive erratically or who think it's perfectly ok to drive after having a few alcoholic drinks or taking drugs.
I'm fairly anti-gun so I would never date a man who owns a gun. I appreciate not everyone is as anti-gun as me though so what I would say is if you date a man who owns a gun, at least make sure he practices gun safety.
Adrenaline junkies who partake in dangerous activities such as riding motorcycles, mountain biking, or free climbing. I won’t date a man who actively seeks out activities in which one small mistake could leave him paralyzed or dead.
I’m going to go a step further with your untreated mental illness one. I won’t date a man with any mental illness, period. I find that men use it as an excuse to not shower, get out of bed, hold down a job, treat me right, etc.
No eternal pessimists. I need someone who is generally optimistic & has a lighthearted/positive outlook on life. Being around downer men is AWFUL.
Autistic men are a hard no from me, I don't care how high functioning he is. I dated a man who is autistic & spent an inordinate amount of time explaining social conventions & norms to him. I never brought him around my work or social circle because I did not trust that he would pick up on social cues & act accordingly.
Men who diet. They are always some combination of insecure, vain, neurotic, lacking in self control & total pussies. Men who diet are just not masculine at all. (Of course, if it's medically necessary-like he's going into surgery & needs to fast the day before, that's different. I'm talking about men who are weighing their protein powder and won't even taste the dish you made because it would be 4 too many calories.)
Teeth for real. Damaged, dirty, or rotting is one thing but even just unsightly teeth. Men have all the money, they're perfectly capable of spending a few thousand to get cosmetic fixes for their teeth! How much money are we as women expected to spend improving ourselves visually? Men can't spend a little for a one time fix that would make SUCH a difference? I can't find a man who looks like he has the teeth of a 5th grader appealing.
Sleep apnea.
I'm a light sleeper, and my ex had it. Can't even pretend it's white noise because one snore would sound like a train, next one like a pig struggling to breathe, then silence for a min.. Then it'd return like a triumphant horn.
Earplugs are uncomfortable to sleep in, and I already take a while to fall asleep and find loud noises irritating. Sleep deprived + constant unpleasant noise = cranky as hell.
If he had stopped breathing, I would've basked in the silence and left it in God's hands at that point.
He expected me to get used to it because his exes did 🤡
Glad I don't need to compromise my sleep quality anymore
- men who force me to add meat to my diet and make me feel like shit for choosing not to. (I do eat chicken and seafood many times, and can have beef or pork if there is no other option available. But I try to keep my diet vegetarian or have little amount of chicken and/or seafood only)
- alternatively, a man who guilt trips me into or continuously insists on turning me vegan is also a no go.
- men who focus a bit too much on consuming red meat in general. I have rarely met a man like that who does not make red meat his whole freakin personality.
-men with ugly/ damaged teeth and bad breath.
- scared of doctors and health checkups. At some point you gotta learn how to deal with your fear. Besides, who am I gonna rely on when I have major health issues.
And everything else mentioned in your list sounds pretty amazing. Maybe I will be flexible with few of the points to an extent.
Doesn't change or wash his sheets regularly. I've seen this more than I needed to. Instant ick.
Men who want children but are unwilling to take precautions to avoid passing on any inheritable diseases or disabilities to them. I know there is a lot you can't test or take precautions for, but why risk the things you CAN avoid? And guess who will carry the load of taking care of a severely disabled or terminally ill child? Usually not the father.
If there is a severe risk factor either of us is carrying or that runs in the family, I will not risk passing it on. Period. We can use a sperm donor, egg donor, adopt etc. but it is selfish and unfair to knowingly pass these things on just because you want children with your own genes.
I know a man who has fucking Huntington's disease in his family and who refuses to get tested himself. He also wants children of his own and doesn't think he should warn the future mother about the risk.
Wears shoes in the house. They have zero respect and arent gonna help vacuum or mop anyway.
Jumps in the bed after the gym or a sweaty day before showering first
Any gross hygiene that results in me getting acne or skin infections is a HELL NO. Wash your fucking beards, don't scratch your balls then scratch your face or touch my face, wash your hands and pillow cases frequently
Clean guys exist. we dont have to put up with bullshit
Uncircumcised men. Too many dirty unwashed foreskins and the horrid smell that accompanies them have taught me to say NO to uncut dick. Unless a man is scrupulously clean with cleaning under his foreskin every day, there is nothing but a sea of bacteria lurking there that can cause real issues for women's genital and reproductive health.
BAD BREATH - nothing to me is worse than poor oral hygiene. I don't think I could date someone with visible enamel damage either - it's just sooo ugly and preventable.
My dad is the "my body can fight it off type". I would never date this type of man. Luckily though he doesn't force this on the rest of us and takes my moms health concerns seriously and makes sure she sees a doctor. (Although he thinks most of the Drs "don't have a clue"). I think it's a form of narcissism to be honest. Like his body is strong enough to fight off anything but he doesn't expect that type of immune system from the rest of us. He once said if he had cancer he'd just fast to starve off the cancer... I'm not sure if he's just half joking at this point and trolling us. But yeah it's definitely a form of narcissism.
Sleeps in a nest
Ugh god my ex literally would not go get a checkup yet, as I posted earlier, was fucking subscribing to erectile disfunction meds where you see an online doc for that. But no checkup. They truly are gross. Ill never date a guy who doesnt maintain at least the same hygenie standards as me and Im litearlly a soap maker with very very high hygiene standars. LOL