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I saw a post on here where the OP talked about her boyfriend who has a guy friend that treats women badly and when she was complaining to her boyfriend about how men treat women badly on average, including his friend, her boyfriend told her that he: doesn't care what his friend does to women as he (her boyfriend) likes him, which is essentially all that matters to him.
This reminded me of an incident in high school with a guy that I was friends with. For convenience's's sake, let's call him Morris. Morris liked a girl that I was friends with (let's call her Wendy). He was on the nerdy side while Wendy was fashionable, well-liked and not nerdy at all. He told me he liked her and asked me not to tell anyone (which is a promise I kept) and while he was nervous to tell her, he planned on doing so in time.
Wendy liked a guy in our year (let's call him Chris) who was one of the popular guys. As it tends to go with teenage guys, he and his friends were quite immature and would make fun of anyone they considered lame.
Wendy, Chris, Chris' immature friends, Morris and I were all in the same English class. One day, while working, we all started talking amongst ourselves until someone said something that got the whole class talking to each other as a big group. We then started talking about who liked who and people started to guess who they think so and so liked. Chris turned to Morris and asked him who he liked. Morris very nervously said that he didn't like anyone which only made Chris prod him into revealing who he liked. Till today, I don't know how he knew but Chris guessed that Morris liked Wendy and Wendy immediately looked uncomfortable. Morris kept denying it, laughing nervously and started to turn red. Chris continued saying that he knew Morris liked Wendy then Chris' friends piped up to say that they had noticed him looking at Wendy and I think someone said that they had heard from other people that Morris liked her. If I remember correctly, Morris has told some of his friends that he liked Wendy. Despite Morris denying it, it became very obvious to everyone that he did like Wendy and unfortunately for him, Wendy was not interested in the slightest. She looked annoyed and uncomfortable enough to want to leave the room. Chris kept pushing Morris, quite aggressively, to admit that he liked Wendy but the more he denied it, the more obvious it was that he was lying.
It soon got very uncomfortable and looked like we were all watching Chris verbally attack and put down Morris, mocking him for thinking that he had a chance with Wendy. As if by magic, the bell rang and we all got up to leave the classroom. Once we got outside, Morris hurried over to me to berate me for telling Chris that he liked Wendy. He said that I had to have told Chris, seeing as Chris and I were friendly and would speak once in a while because there was no way that Chris would've known that he liked Wendy. I told him that he was my friend and so I'd never tell anyone anything he told me in private but Morris didn't listen; instead, he said that he knew I had told Chris and was shocked that I would betray him like that. He finished off by saying that he'd never talk to me again and walked off. He kept his word and we never spoke again.
I say all this to say: Chris always subtly and sometimes overtly made fun of Morris and his nerdy friends. Morris and his friends would laugh nervously and would always try to talk to/fit in with Chris and his crew yet Morris decided that it was me that was a bad person that chose to betray him while never showing any anger to Chris, who was basically a bully that embarrassed him.
Most men always choose other men no matter what other men do to them. Just like the OP and her boyfriend that said chose to be friends with his toxic friend, most men will choose other men over us.
Please remember this.
And strangely enough, some women with side with men over women
This is because “Morris” had a general respect for “Chris” because he’s a man. In the same vein, men will typically stay quiet when a friend or acquaintance is being obviously sexist towards women, but the millisecond a woman says anything negative about men, he will JUMP down her throat to call her “sexist”. Men respect men.
Male emotions & actions (especially anger) are always treated like this fixed, unchangeable fact that can't be stopped or prevented like rain on random Tuesday morning. Women, other men, and children are told to just plan our lives around male tantruming and were the problem if we want it to stop.
I feel like chris is even better than moris. What happen to them now?