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There's this old fart at my work who flirts with everybody and brags about paying child support. (Way to pitch yourself bud 🙄)
He recently started dating a woman for 2 weeks and is, of course, triangulating her with random women at work who have no interest in him.
They both have kids around and under 10yrs old. He got to meet her kids, and the youngest baby said she loves him.
I said "woah, that's too soon. That's kind of fucked up to do that to children."
And he said "NO, its a good thing because NOW SHE CAN NEVER LEAVE ME."
(I just looked at him in pure horror and said "... Mhmm... 😳")
Only 2 weeks and he is abusing her and her children, and bragging about it. In the first week, before even meeting her in person, he bought her a $100 gift. I guarantee he has already held that gift over her head.
It reminded me of the workplace incel who said that he hates single moms because "they use their children to manipulate you."
It was projection. Incel dude gave me wife beater vibes because he is indeed a wife beater who targets young single mothers. He uses the woman's child against her, just like the old fart.
I just want to reiterate that if you get even a whiff of triangulation, you are indeed being triangulated. Run.
Me and the women at work have discussed this, we have the new girlfriends back. However the new girlfriend is falling hook line and sinker for the triangulation and is messaging my coworkers on social media, asking if they have ever had a "thing" with her new hospice patient, I mean man.
I don't have children myself, so all I can contribute to this discussion is:
Watch out for triangulation
Don't accept immediate, extravagant/expensive gifts way too soon, because its love bombing
And Don't LET A MAN NEAR YOUR CHILDREN SO SOON.
Mothers of FDS, what advice would you give to other moms who are trying to date?
My advice for single mums (which I am) ….. don’t date. Full stop the end.
Reminds me of that Kanye song: She got one of yo' kids, got you for 18 years
As usual, men are projecting when they think women trap men with a baby.
Reminds me of brad pitt hitting his kids then fighting Angelina Jolie for custody for years. She can't just walk away from this physically abusive man. She left this relationship 7 years ago and he's still controlling her through the legal system, dragging her to court nonstop. If it hadn't been for his right as an abuser to fight for custody, she could've just walked away. And of course now he's dragging her back to court to sue her over their wine company.
He's a fucking piece of shit. I hope he gets what's coming to him. Imagine not being able to just walk away from someone who abuses you and your kids. Angelina Jolie literally took up Buddhism because of the stress of being abused/baby trapped just for daring to leave an asshole man. She's literally the queen Queen. A few years ago she did a photo shoot covered in live bees and she looks zen as fuck, she took Buddhism all the way. You put this woman in a miserable abusive legal situation and she still finds a way to turn it to gold. Fucking love her. Fuck the fucking scrote ass tarantino-loving pos brad pitt who never deserved any woman, let alone this goddess.
We should love ourselves just as much as we love our children. So I don't see how the rules should be any different, other than the obvious (which you've stated)- don't let them near your kids too soon.
that GIF is terrifying🤣
also: "hospice patient" 💀
just want to acknowledge the extra mental and emotional labor moms end up having to perform to 1) look out for themselves 2) look out for their children and 3) teach their children to look out for themselves. much respect.
So fucking creepy… i worked with an old scrote like this. Would always target single moms, and start referring to her children as his children. Very predatory.
Pedos target single mothers to get to their kids. In my personal life I have witnessed this happen and the mother was too blind and desperate to care. If I were to become single I’d keep men away from my kids and never move them in. I probably wouldn’t even let them know I had kids right off the bat.
The only good way that balances the moms and the childs needs is to hide the fact that you have a child. For me no one knew, be it at my work, friends, events. I minded my own feminine business. Was never a pedo target other than the fact I look sub 20 myself. I don't owe anyone this information and that way I dated, and got married. I only told them this after several months and then it was at their disgression to continue or not. My now husband is someone who would have said he cannot date someone with children. But through me he sees it as a positive now. I cannot bury my own happiness nor endanger my child because men feel entitled to know all information about me before I even know them.