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Ladies please block and delete men who say or make inappropriate comments or moves towards you. Cut off any male friends/family members/acquaintances who do this. Please read Lundy Bancroft's book The Gift of Fear and please lean into and validate your discomfort and disgust when this happens. I understand that we are brainwashed to go against our gut. Fight to deprogram this brainwashing. Women do NOT match men in strength and this is a provable biological fact. Which is why it makes sense from an evolutionary perspective that we have a stronger intuition for sensing danger. Human males are our biggest predators.
I don't know if anyone has been following the devastating case of a 19year old Italian girl who was assaulted by 7 men. This was planned and executed by her male friend who had been inappropriate with her and tried to make moves on her on several occasions despite knowing she had a boyfriend. She rejected his advances and his ego couldn't take it, so he rounded up 6 friends and they plotted with the male bartender to get her so wasted that she could not defend herself.
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8F366EB/
Most men are NOT your friend. The other day, a young woman posted about going on a night out with a 50-year-old man in another country. I understand she viewed him as a mentor. But then he texted her inappropriate comments. I'm glad she was able to post on fds so that we could discourage her from going out to see him. Otherwise her pickme friends would have gaslit into ignoring her intuition that something was off & thinking it wasn't a big deal when he literally was acting like a predator. Pickmes can be a danger to other women. Ladies Please don't go out alone to bars, places with alcohol or literally anywhere, especially at night with men who are not a trusted responsible family members or a spouse. Again trusted and responsible brother/ father/SO. Don't go with Pickmes either. Most men are predators who only view women in terms of sex and sexual things. The world's patriarchal structures condition them to be unable to view women as flesh and blood human beings who are fully established in this world with our own thoughts opinions and hobbies. You are kidding yourself if you think men are your friends. And most women end up traumatized/raped and /or dead for projecting their empathy, morality and sense of humanity onto men.
Most Men don't view us as living concious beings who feel pain or emotions. Think of it. This poor Italian girl was crying out in pain, pleading for them to stop. I bet if people were beating a dog and it was howling and whimpering a crowd would run to help. But the same crowd would probably participate in or ignore a woman's cries for help. So really reflect on how you're viewed as nothing but an object who's existence is only in relation to men's lust in this patriarchal world.
Commenting to add that : You need to stop having empathy for men. They certainly have no empathy for women. If you keep letting your empathy and men's manipulative guilt tripping get the better of you, then you will keep having bad experiences with men. Block delete and ghost. No explanation needs to be given to men. Your safety is more important than men's feelings. When has a male judge ever had empathy for female rape victims? Most political systems would have a death penalty for rape if empathy for women existed or at least allow women to kill their rapist/ attempted rapist.
Stop feeling guilty about leaving, ghosting and cutting men off with no explanation. They are doctors lawyers and scientists they know what they did. They certainly don't feel bad about any manipulation tactics that they use on you. They don't feel bad about pumping & dumping or abusing you. So ladies you seriously need to stop projecting your morals and empathy onto men. This should only be reserved for women children and animals.
Death penalty for rape. :) In a perfect society, with those videos out, every one of those dudes would be dead, and the "kid" would have decades of prison.
Having empathy for men is dangerous. We see them as people, but they do not see us the same way. Losing our excessive empathy for men is a necessary part of protecting ourselves.
How do their dads not want to just beat the absolute shit out of them?? Like, dude, your son is a RAPIST. That's disownment territory.
Thank you. I've felt this deeply from a young age since I grew up with heinous abuse and quickly learnt what men are capable of. On the rare occasions, I'll give a surface-level friendship with a guy a go but every single time they cannot control giving away that they're sexualising me.
I've had the range from trying to make me feel bad to outright disgusting sexual remarks I've had to confront and cut them off over forever. I'm a closed off person so I cannot even imagine how hard it must be for trusting lovely women to have to come to the harsh reality of what it is to try to be friends with men... they never deserve it.
This conversion always comes up among women too. There'll always be that one woman who says she's always had male friends and it's been all right. Dig deeper, and no it definitely hasn't.
oh, they know very well we feel pain. they enjoy it thoroughly. they get off on that more than anything else.
Pre-FDS and after in HS, I had some "male friends" I realize now that both were extremely inappropriate to me, and the one I met afterFDS was downright misogynist and colorist as well. No more male friends for me. Idgaf what the world says, I'm not gonna become a victim due to social pressures.
My colleague, an Italian pianist, was gang raped by at least 10 refugees on a train in Italy. Nothing was done to them. Rape isn't seen as much of a crime due to males not equating women as humans and also due to their need for egoic and sexual dominance. Males don't even hold rape of adult males or male children as that much of a crime probably due to their internal sexual deviance and need for domination and destruction. These male judges and lawmakers don't even make the penalties for male on male rape that bad either. None of this will stop until victims and/or their families hunt the rapists down themselves and end them. If enough people started to enact private justice, the rapes would stop, and the lawmakers would be forced to up the penalties for rape which should be the death penalty. We got to this situation by casting our empathy onto men which they neither have nor deserve. We've had far too many women lobbying for males in prison to reduce their sentences and to give them leniency. No more!
"Ladies please block and delete men who say or make inappropriate comments or moves towards you".
This is worth repeating. Communication doesn't work with these creeps. As long as you're still in contact with them, they think they're still in with a chance. The only way to get the message across that you don't want a relationship with them is to ghost them. Your safety outweighs their feelings.
https://knews.kathimerini.com.cy/en/news/gang-rape-horrors-shake-italy-7-men-accused-victim-s-assault-filmed And, OF COURSE, the far fucking RIGHT is the political wing advocating for chemical castration. Where are pro-female leftists? This is why we have young women flooding into tradwifing and shit like this, to avoid leftism that's been co-opted by males. FDS needs to do a podcast on WHY you have right-wing extremism in young women. I'd probably end up voting for a dude who calls for chemically castrating rapists, who would also advocate that I shouldn't be able to vote or some shit!
Hi, I’m the young woman who made the post about the 50 yo ‘friend/mentor’. After listening to all the ladies’ advice on here, I didn’t communicate with him and simply ignored him, until his messages became even more depraved. He sent me a redpill video about not dating women with a certain hair colour because they are too hot and crazy, and that happens to me my hair colour. So I had no choice but to block and deleted after that.
Never entertaining a straight man as a friend ever again after that harassment.
Actually going to add that to my reading list, currently reading "Why does he do that?" And oh boy it feels good to be right.
Also yeah don't ever view men as people, they literally don't see themselves as people. The men that see themselves as humans are the ones that will go out of their way to make sure their personhood is the only kind that exists in a relationship. Even when you only date the submissive ones they still try crawling in and ruining your life quietly while playing the victim the whole time.
Lundy Bancroft didn't write Gift of Fear though. You're thinking of Gavin DE Becker
I agree with this post except the idea that woman shouldn't go out at night alone / to bars. Woman shouldn't live our lives in fear. I will always go out with pepper spray, alertness, and an attitude of self-defense and self-preservation. I also go out with knowledge of male nature and their lack of empathy. If some women don't feel capable of defending themselves, which is entirely reasonable given the strength difference and danger, they should stay home. But I don't think blanket statements of fear are helpful to women
Did you mean Gavin de Becker? Couldn’t find any book by Lundy Bancroft with that title.
This is horrible, also how did this happen in public?! Surely someone else would have saw