Masculine Men

There is a popular post on another website where the most popular replies claim that men do not show their partners’ nudes to others. Perhaps among men that frequent nerd websites and have solitary work it is true, I can’t say as I have not spent time in those circles. However, in masculine male dominated workplaces and social groups (athletes/military/fraternity/emergency services or anything in the “bro” spectrum even if white collar) it just not true. In masculine male spaces, the rule is that men are good unless they do something to disrupt that perception. Women begin at the bottom of the ladder and must prove themselves to be good. It is possible for these men to show respect to you if you excel in your pursuits and walk the line. However, if things go sideways such as a messy breakup, the smallest amount of respect is often completely revoked and they will send out “make her famous” mass texts. They do not have a shred of respect for women who are perceived to be flirtatious with too many men, easy to impress, or fast to get into bed. They will sleep with this woman, but they won‘t choose her because she seems low value and it’s socially unacceptable. Unlike the “everyone belongs” rule of nerdy men, masculine men enforce social rules by pressuring each other and use shunning as a final measure. This enforcement also applies to women that do something socially unacceptable in their eyes. If you move too fast with this type of man, it never even began for you. If you like a man who is in this type of work/social group then you need to play it cool for a very long time.