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Really at a loss for what to do. l know the title is clickbait-y but it’s becoming a genuine concern for me lately. l haven’t been in a relationship for a couple of years now and have been trying to get back into the game via the online dating apps. I’ve had some success with matches and getting a conversation going, the only problem lies in when they ask me what l do for work.
l work inventory for a hospital, it’s not exactly the most lucrative of jobs but it does pay enough for me to Iive alone with my dog fairly comfortably. l also deliver pizza as a second job for the extra income. As soon as I tell my matches this they ghost, or worse just unmatch me entirely. l think l’ve talked to 20 or so women and consistentIy had these results.
lt’s really destroying my confidence because l haven’t had the opportunity to go to college for numerous reasons (hence the second job!) but l also don’t want to be with someone who only sees me as a paycheck. Any advice or words of encouragement here? l’m on Hinge and Bumble, are these just the worst places to find women or something?
Advice given:
From now on you are a HeaIthcare lndexing Executive.
lndexing specialist with a sidehustle that you're not quite ready to discuss but it's a driving force to your future.
"l work in heaIthcare."
Stick with that for now.
lt's called an administrative position. Just use that as a titIe.
Maybe leave out the pizza delivery for extra side cash and stick to just heaIthcare. And if it comes up you deliver pizza because it’s fun and comes with good stories, not for the money
For your secondary job: "l manage Iogistics for a essential service."
LVM do not respect women's boundaries and standards. The OP of this post thinks he deserves a smoking hot woman with high standards, if only he could convince her to see past his situation (Not that he's giving the same consideration to someone who is below his own standards). And the advice; bamboozle those stupid women with euphemisms. What women want doesn't matter.
He also doesn't want to be seen as paycheck, even though every woman he's tried to date has rejected him. Who is seeing him as a paycheck with his two shitty jobs?
"l manage Iogistics for a essential service."
Seriously, what grown woman would fall for this? It's an intentionally vague statement that anyone would see as fishy.
Even if his fake job description gets him a date, don't you think the woman will eventually realize he is broke when she sees where he lives and what type of car he drives, etc?
These scrotes want all of the benefits of being a well off, financially stable man without actually being one. Lazy & entitled.
If a man ever tries this on me, I'm going to drop him the second I find out he has misrepresented himself to me.
Yeah, I would unmatch from that guy because he makes a lot less than I do, so I would either have to leave him out of activities that cost money (travel, cultural events, sports with expensive equipment) or pay his way. With the first, why date someone you can't do things with? With the latter, no way, no how. I have NEVER seen that scenario work out well. And the thing is, I made the effort to get myself into a higher income bracket because I wanted access to more things/experiences in life. If he wanted to earn more he would. If he wants to be a lower earner, that's cool, you do you, bro, but he's not allowed to bash women for wanting something different.
Good-faith advice to this fellow would be to work on bettering his career and elevating his lifestyle if he wants to attract a woman to match. But of course he is told to attempt to deceive and lie to women (presumably long enough to get laid) so that they find him more attractive.
This is a perfect example of why you always FaceTime before meeting in person. A guy like this will give himself away in the first five minutes of the conversation.
Imagine the rage a dirty pathetic scrote would feel if he found out the woman he's dating has lied about her profession or any other important aspect? He'd probably lash out and cuss her, but somehow this is acceptable for these poor uneducated pests to do this? Fuck off.