Look for a man that has personal convictions that line up with yours and avoid the ones who don't

One thing that makes relationships not last between men and women is being incompatible. This shows up in men and women having differing views, boundaries and mindsets.

For a man to be on the same page as you, you must be compatible and most importantly, he must have a personal conviction about things that align with yours. What this means is that he must find certain things important to him, as an individual. His values, beliefs, morals and mindset must be determined by him, he must take them seriously and they must show in the way he carries himself and lives his life. He must have a mind of his own and not be swayed by his guy friends or by what a woman says is important to her.

Here's an example: You're a devout Christian and the guy you're dating is on and off with his commitment to his faith. Instantly, you and him are incompatible because your faith matters to you while his doesn't. You go to church regularly, pray regularly and follow the principles of Christianity in the best way you can while the guy you're dating hasn't been to church in the last 5 years and is also not quite sure if he still believes in God. In this scenario, for the man to be a possible candidate for you, he would need to have his own personal relationship with God that he takes seriously. He would need to have been a follower of the faith well before he met you. Trying to make him go to church so that you can "become compatible" will not work as it would lead to him either outrightly declining on going or going to impress you, which would lead to him resenting you later when he's tired of pretending.

Example 2: If you get married, you want the man to be the sole or primary financial provider but the guy you're dating thinks that it's unfair for all the work to be on him, believing that you should split things 50/50. Badgering him into seeing things your way will not work because he doesn't want to be the sole or primary financial provider. What would put a woman and man on the same page in this scenario would be for the man to already have had the view that a man is to provide for his family, long before meeting and dating the woman.

A man who has the same views as you would've had them well before he met you because they are views that he personally respects, holds deeply and lives by. Trying to make a man see things the way you do won't work. Trying to make a man value things you value won't work. Men that don't see things the same way as you are not right for you.