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I know a guy who's valuable to me as a friend, but very low value as a boyfriend - despite being rather wealthy he prefers to take women on walk dates, is rather ugly & unhygienic but with sky high standards, is really bad in bed (as reported by his various exes), the list goes on. He is in no way any FDS'ers idea of a catch.
I used to go to a gym with him, and afterwards we were eating and talking in his car, and he was swiping on tinder. I asked to see because I was curious what the pickings for men are on OLD.
I noticed something strange. He swiped left on the gorgeous, stunning, put together women and often swiped right on women who were clearly not as desirable. I asked him why, and he said that the women he swiped left on looked like 'too much trouble', 'too high maintenance', 'looks like a headache', 'she looks like she will ask for a lot'.
He was clearly looking for a cool girl who will be down for a walk by the sea and watching a marvel movie in his smelly apartment, followed by some groping in the dark.
These men are self-selecting out of our dating pool!
Back then this convinced me like nothing else that there is absolutely no shame in looking like you go on holidays to five star resorts and michelin restaurants. The bitter, gold digger-fearing cheapos will repel themselves.
Why are you friends with him then? Men are either low value or high value. He sounds like a cheap dusty esp if he has to call women “high maintenance“ lmao.
like what does he even offer as a “friend?”
You are friends with an ugly unhygienic male? How does he add value to your life exactly? Financially? .. “Tell me who you hang out with, I will tell who you are.” He sounds gross 🤮
I wouldn't be friends with some POS that treats the women he dates like that. I'd feel like I'm betraying myself and other women who've experienced deplorable treatment like that by befriending someone who's basically an enemy to women. I wouldn't want nothing from someone like that and I'd tell him he's a nobody to his face.
It will repel some. But not all. Some will try to leech on to you, tear you down, or use.abuse you in other ways for 'fun', ego boosts, narcissistic supply etc.
The surprising part for me about this story is that there is an actual male who doesn't swipe right on every picture, regardless of looks, just to increase his odds..
Better yet, I look like a cool girl but I act like 5star michelin girl lol
Whenever dudes talk about walks I will walk away. You either leave a good impression or you don’t. I don’t owe you a convenient date. Your first impression is your last impression. Heaps of dudes claim that coffee dates is a tool to weed out the gold diggers but they would never settle for a coffee date if they were asked out, unless they will have sex after coffee.
Men hate women who look feminine, unless it is a m to f trans man, then it's ok to look feminine.