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... because they don't need them. Therefore, it makes no sense to look for them there and waste your time scrolling through tons of scrotes.
There. That could be my whole post but I'm going to elaborate a little:
Imagine a HV man. Attractive, accomplished, intelligent, financially secure, generous, kind... and whatever other qualities he needs to have for you.
I think everyone is going to agree with me that men like this are extremely rare to begin with in this society and one being single and looking for a serious partner (especially over a certain age) is even rarer. But still: it happens.
Now tell me if this is a likely scenario:
This man really, really struggles to find dates in real life because for some strange reason there isn't a single, lovely woman nearby - not even a coworker, a relative of a friend, a friend of a relative, a neighbor, someone he regularly sees while pursuing a hobby, someone he meets by chance at an event etc. etc. - he likes enough and who recognizes his HVness, so he has to stoop to looking at random women on dating apps because he is so desperate?
Let's be realistic here: a truly HV man will have absolutely no trouble finding dates in real life. He'll be drowing in eligible, amazing women because the absolute majority of men suck and finding a decent one who is single is like winning the lottery.
I would even say they are not online at all. They might have linkedin but that's it. If a man is on social media he's a fuckboi, baby daddy, a cheater, pornsick depraved basement dweller, a pedophile or a walking std vector.
Or any mix of those to be frank.
im gonna be real with you theres no HV men out in the world either lol
these apps arent even designed for you to meet someone anyway, they are designed for you to stay on them as long as possible, to see as many ads as possible and get addicted to it, constantly checking it over and over again and if you fail to meet someone which most men do, that usually encourages them to then pay for more premium services like tinder gold. These apps are designed for companies to get rich, actually its one company called match group who owns all of the dating apps and they are worth nearly 10 billion dollars. its all about the money.
But yeah a HV man wont be on these apps, men who use these apps have no self esteem, no hobbies/interests, very little social skills and cant talk to women in real life and the majority of them don't even get any matches, which again makes them pay for tinder gold/premium services cause they think it will help them when they need to look in the fucking mirror.
where is the clapping emoji?
yes, queen! you said it all! thank you so much for reminding us of that. HVW don't need no apps either.
now if - BIG HUGE GIGANTIC IF here - you decide to try it, you need to be extremely strategic. look for the "burn the haystack" method. it might work for you.
quality and your safety are all that matter!
Even if dating apps were supposedly "good," that's just one more thing that makes us rely either on our computers or on our phones all the time. That would be enslaving; having to check our devices for notifications, having to write messages to men who initiate messages to us (not saying we have to but I'm not saying it's not an expectation either), scrolling to see potentials, etc. There's only so many hours of the day, I want to chill in other ways. That doesn't make me lazy does it?
I agree with your point that online dating is absolute sewage.
I also see the point other commenters have made about online dating being the only option if you live in an isolated rural area or small town where there are no social events, and everyone else is married. Online dating is undesirable, but it may be literally the only way for some women to meet new people.
THIS! 👏👏👏
I am a HVW and all my colleagues are taken. So.. yeah.