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Easy -- be a bit*h.
The same way you vet every other men out there -- be so difficult to please that you send them running back to their mommy.
"But I don't know how to act like a bit*h, that's not me"
But settling for mediacore and letting things slip is not the genuine you either, isn't it?
Ask yourself -- why are you tolerating a grown ass man acting worse than a child, and his mother treating you like her worst enemy?
Sure, they may love-bomb you at the beginning, the guy giving his best and the mom acting like an angel;
But when you are difficult;
Difficult to please,
Difficult to impress,
Difficult to praise,
Difficult to manipulate;
Because you don't need other people to validate you?
The guy is gonna flip on you pretty soon.
Because all mommy's boys share the same trait:
They don't like anything difficult. And despise difficult woman.
Even if the guy himself can be patient and play the long game -- his mother will not be so patient.
Because all boy mums share the same trait:
They treat their son like a fragile piece of glass, and you the worst enemy in her life for daring to "steal" her son away.
So when you start being difficult and trouble his son -- the mom will flip on you so fast, you gonna get a whiplash.
Besides, "mommy's boy" are all really bad partners;
They are whiny,
They have no backbone,
They expect you to coddle them 24/7,
They are so desperate for attention,
They want to hog the spotlight wherever they go,
They want to be "babied",
They struggle with wanting to be treated like an adult, but shrink back panicking when they are expected to handle "big man stuff",
Anything remotely difficult? Even filling forms at the dentist? They will ask you to do it,
They are so damn dependant, it is like having a grown ass son instead of a partner,
Need to ask mommy about every single little thing,
They get super stressed and angry when dealing with anything remotely difficult and "no fun".
You want an easy test? Go find a haunted house or anything of similar nature and watch how he will act.
Yeah yeah what a "childish" suggestion -- but you are dealing with a literal toddler in an adult's body -- so never underestimate what a "childish" setting will bring out, you will be surprised.
Why? Because haunted houses somewhat emulates that raw feeling of unknown threat and danger, evoking the primal fear in your brain.
Works especially well with mommy's boy -- he may act brave before going in but once he got spooked, his first instict is to throw you to the "danger" and ran away, saving himself.
You really don't want that kind of person anywhere near you and your future children.
You want to know how to spot a mommy's boy?
Go outside. Take a look around.
Most of the men in your life will be a varying version of mommy's boy.
No, it is not "normal" for dads to sit around playing with their phones while the wife running herself ragged caring for three toddlers -- that's f**ked up.
Reject the notion of normalizing being a bangmaid mommy to a grown-ass man, and you will have all the examples your heart desires, right there in the open world.
It is not "normal" to feel like having "another grown ass child" instead of a husband.
Do not tolerate this kind of attitude, this kind of weird ass normalization -- because it is not. It is f**king creepy is what it is.
Do not tolerate a whiny-ass man.
Do not think that him asking you how to do this and that, and depending on your for every damn thing as "adorable" -- because it is not.
Do not think that him eagerly sharing personal things with you "to connect deeper" means he values you -- because he is not. He is just seeking a new "mommy" candidate.
Do not think him asking your opinios on every single little thing means he respect your voice and give weight to your opinions -- because he is not. He just wants attention.
Be STRICT with a man -- let him jump through hurdles. The mommy's boy won't last long, they don't like anything difficult.
Be ruthless in how you treat a man, and expect that he acts like a reliable, mature and responsible man forever -- the moment he falters, walk away.
If you strunggle with low self-worth and thinking that a man depending on you means he is acknowledging your worth -- STAY SINGLE. Work on yourself.
When you level up to the point you no longer need external validation -- you can clearly see just how bizzare (and creepy) a mommy's boy and the boy mom dynamic is.
There's childish, and then there's that. Mommy's boy are so damn weird and whiny, it is not that hard to spot them.
So be a bit*h, and let them run back to their mommy screaming and crying.
Stay safe, STAY WOMAN.
This is a sweeping generalization, but in most generalizations, there is a grain of truth:
Momma's boys are found in greater frequences in non-white cultures.
I'm not saying white men can't be momma's boys. They sure can. I'm saying there is a lower likelihood of mommaboyism in WASP cultures.
This is just something I've noticed throughout my life; take that how you will.
It is essential for a man to prioritize your happiness over his mother’s (yet for that to also not be a constant battle). The holidays are a perfect time to test him by expressing a preference that differs from his mother’s, and seeing how he responds.
I control the dates that my boyfriend and I stay with his family over Christmas. His mother would likely prefer us to stay a day or two longer, but I find it socially tiring (even though they’re quite pleasant), so he follows my preferences and needs. If he didn’t, I would resent him for being a momma's boy, and it would be the beginning of the end.
Yes ma'am!! Perfectly said. 👏🏻 A GREAT example of this disgusting dynamic is Rula and his mom from tiktok! There's a video popping off right now where his own MOTHER is calling the women he's asked out trashy and undeserving for expecting to be treated well and taken on a nice date. She's calling em broke gold diggers because they expect to go to a STEAKHOUSE?! 🤣 It's absolute insanity and he's hyping her up and agreeing with her. He is 21. He is a GROWN ADULT MAN hiding behind his mommy who's berating women for expecting her son to do the bare fucking minimum. The dude will NEVER find a date now that everyone in the world knows how incestuous the relationship between him and his mother. She's smirking, too. She knows EXACTLY what she's doing. After a good laugh at the absurdity of the video it really sinks in how disturbing it is and how calculated the grooming behavior from the mom is to keep her adult son her little sonsband. Completely deluded behavior.
why test? if you dont baby them they get angry and dissapear and hate your guts, thats the best test you will fail.
How to vet every fck boy? Put all men on life time probation, Violate the probation and you are out.
Mama's boys are adorable from a distance but Idk if I'd ever date one. More often than not, they have Peter Pan syndrome and the mom usually has SOME emotional incest tendencies she's refusing to work on