How to Spot a Dangerous Man – The Parental Seeker [Part 2/10]

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The parental seeker 

❋ wants constant reassurance

❋ wants to be waited on and refuses to do basic things for himself

❋ doesn’t help with adult chores

❋ expects special treatment because he is needy

❋ pouts if you don’t wait on him

❋ claims he wants you to do things for him because it makes him feel good

❋ wants to be told what to do and needs direction to get anything done

❋ wants you to make decisions for his life

❋ neither has nor wants outside relationships, friends, or interests

❋ is childlike in his emotional needs

❋ underachieves as a way of avoiding responsibility

❋ has a history of being rescued, kept, or sheltered in relationships

❋ probably has had several failed relationships

❋ appears to need a mentor in all areas of his life

The “Your Defense Strategy” section of this chapter also mentions that “[m]ost people shut down when you try to fix them. But a seeker acts like he will take all the help he can get,” along with stating that “[y]our defense approach with the parental seeker has to begin with a good examination of yourself... What is it in his dependency and vulnerability that you find appealing, attractive, or sexy?"