How to Spot a Dangerous Man - The Addict [Part 6/10]

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The addict

❋ uses the addictive agent almost daily or in binges or cycles

❋ devotes a majority of his time, money, or interests to the addictive agent

❋ suffers mood swings or changes in attitude if he cannot use the agent

❋ has lost relationships, jobs, or other significant things due to his addiction

❋ lies about his usage

❋ lies about his whereabouts so he can use

❋ doesn’t want to discuss the addictive agent

❋ is rigid about the agent

❋ has a history of other addictions, or his family has addictions

❋ places people as secondary to the agent

❋ causes you discomfort with his attitude about the agent

❋ is at risk or has been at risk for health problems or deteriorating social relationships because of his addiction

The "Your Defense Strategy" in this chapter makes the clear statement that "[a]n addict who is active in his addiction qualifies as a bad dating choice, period, with no exceptions. But what about an addict who is sober or in recovery? In these cases, I say proceed with caution." Additionally, another major point is being aware that a history of addiction in your own family is often a warning sign for becoming involved in relationships with addicts, in which case it is recommended to seek resources for families of addicts. On the other hand, there is also a risk factor for women who are entirely unfamiliar with the behaviors of addicts.