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Hey ladies, how do you assess a man at a party? I'm wondering this because let's say you go to an event with drinking, how do you suss out things like:
How much attention to give to a guy you're interested in?
How to assess if he's just chatting casually to multiple women or if he's trying to pick them up?
Let's say you see him talking to other women, how do you ask them about him without seeming jealous or causing them to gossip about you?
I think if you're not sure that he's interested, then he's not interested. Either that, or he's just not worth your time.
FDS ia against chasing, but you can show signs of interest and then let him do the rest. If you are at a party look at him, maybe smile. Hell get it. If he’s interested he will come to you. If he doesn’t he’s not interested and you better move on.
How much attention? A smile and being open to chat is enough. How to know whether he's trying to pick up women? Observe the women's reaction. Do they act flattered, or do they show signs of being uncomfortable? Then he's probably flirting. How to ask about him? "How do you know X?", make sure to seem normal about it like you're just interested in every unfamiliar guest. If they get defensive or jealous, you also have a confirmation that he's probably been playing the field.
I like to people watch, preferably from the middle of my group of friends so that I cannot be approached unless I want to be. I read lips and you can find out A LOT about a dude by just observing him with other people.