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This is for people in the early stages of getting to know someone.
Today, I realized that Good Morning and Good Night texts are the bare minimum. Yes, it will lead into conversation, but you have boundaries and can cut it off if you need sleep.
When someone you're seeing stops being inconsistent with these messages, it's either that:
They're lazy and finally believe that they can show their real selves.
They have someone else in the picture. Once the person of interest stops seeing them, they either go back to you, but this time, since you're okay with no effort, they'll stop putting in any kind of work.
Do yourself a favour and just block and delete. For the love of yourself, don't try to act like "the cool girl" that's indifferent. This is a sign of inconsistency. If you're looking for stability, this is a small but huge sign to leave him.
I might be in the minority, but good morning texts from someone I barely know kind of bother me anyway. It’s definitely due to my own negative experiences, but getting a “good morning” text at 7am has usually been an indicator of “I’m going to text you aaaalllllllll day starting now and I expect you to reciprocate.” It seems to be something that really needy men do right in the beginning — again, just in my experience.
From someone you’re more serious with — great! If I just started talking to someone yesterday, it makes me uncomfortable when they’re already texting me first thing in the morning. I am just curious to see how FDS generally feels about these texts.
I think a Good Morning is fine as an introduction to the first message of the day... a Goodnight is a bit odd for me as I feel like I'm kind of being tucked into bed like a child.... and what does it even mean? I have had men say Goodnight (stretch/yawn) and then watch as they bounce on and off WA like teenage girls talking to goodness knows who until the small hours. "Goodnight xx" means NOTHING. If you want to know how a partner feels about you, watch what they do not what they emoji....
I just want to warn women when it comes to a guy sending good night and good morning texts very early on when you don't know him. I had a guy do this to me as a way of (I believe) hooking me or lovebombing me. My situation was different because I only knew him online, but he created this intense intimacy with me through texting me before he went to bed and when he woke up. HE started this practice, and I got seduced by the bond it created. He ended up treating me badly, ghosting me, and discarding me. He didn't feel anything for me. Talk is cheap. Texsts are cheap. Please beware of this in the early stages with a man. If you're in an established relationship, then, yes, I think it's to be expected that a partner will send you texts like this.
IMO its not even bare minimum to do that. Texting those things take 2 seconds each time and it's an easy way for sleazy men to develop a false sense of intimacy and appear like theyre making effort. Ladies, getting a good morning text means nothing.
It doesn’t matter if they text good morning or good night. You don’t need to respond. I only respond whenever I feel like it. Some times I don’t respond to the good morning at all … men need to chase. That’s how it is. It’s called COURTING.