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Mini-rant: it enrages me that we have to do this type of research for dating.
Our vetting is not only ruthless, it is also BASED AF, BABY!
This is the link for the complete 2019 Global Study on Homicide: https://www.unodc.org/documents/data-and-analysis/gsh/Booklet_5.pdf
Even though it's a bit old, I think it still applies. I mean, we've been victims of men for millenia, so...
The most useful part for vetting is section "PERPETRATORS OF INTIMATE PARTNER KILLINGS OF WOMEN AND GIRLS" (page 41 in the browser, page 37 in the document). I've gathered the following main points:
Australian study: 80% of such homicides involved men killing a current or former intimate partner. Nearly a quarter of such men were known to the authorities for having been violent towards their intimate partners in the past.
Studies in the US: couples with large age discrepancies were found to be at a particularly high risk for this type of homicide, especially when the male partner was around 15 years older than the female partner.
Earlier studies: male perpetrators in the US are disproportionately poor, young and members of minority ethnic groups, often with a history of violence and substance abuse.
*(Not sure about how much of those findings are a result of racism, so I would take that with a grain of salt. Nevertheless, I will not excuse male violence just because it comes from ethnic minorities)
Study in the UK: intimate partner homicide perpetrators had achieved a higher level of school education and were less likely to be unemployed than perpetrators of other types of homicide. Also, offenders were found to be less likely to have a criminal record than other types of homicide offenders. Other studies based on data from Finland, Sweden and the UK seem to suggest that intimate partner homicide perpetrators are less disadvantaged with regard to employment, housing and criminal history than other types of homicide perpetrators.
Study of male prisoners in Turkey: sought to identify psychosocial characteristics of “femicide” perpetrators, could not uncover a specific psychopathology that could be assigned to them.
*(Yeah, because it's not a pathology or a disorder. It's patriarchy doing it's thing. Men are evil, that' all)
Study in Ghana: perpetrators who committed suicide after killing their partners were both of a lower socioeconomic background and, on average, older than the victim.
Oh, and this right here is just a little something to show when a clown comes along and says "bUt mEn DiE wAy mOre ThAn woMeN aNd wOmEn KiLL meN tOo":
"(...) male and female perpetrators of intimate partner homicide seem to belong to distinct groups, not only in terms of prevalence rates, but also in terms of the motivations behind the offence: motivations typically reported by men include possessiveness, jealousy and fear of abandonment, while motivations reported by women relate to extended periods of suffering physical violence."
There is a lot of important information and I won't paste the entire document here. I think this is already a lengthy summary. I advise every woman here to read and learn from it. Being in a relationship with a man means taking the risk to be a victim of intimate partner violence. And the numbers are astouding.
"A total of 87,000 women were intentionally killed in 2017. More than half of them (58 per cent) 50,000 ̶ ̶ were killed by intimate partners or other family members, meaning that women across the world are killed by a member of their own family every day. More than a third (30,000) of the women intentionally killed in 2017 were killed by their current or former intimate partner ̶ someone they would normally expect to trust."
Stay safe, sisters!
Amazing post that should be pinned and included in the handbook because it also proves so many FDS rules:
Leave at the very first suspicion, sign of disrespect or other red flag. It will get worse. Never give men the benefit of the doubt. And I bet that every single one of the murderers has been violent to their partner before, it's just that only a quarter of the victims reported it.
Avoid relationships with a large age gap.
Don't date men who are poor, badly adjusted to life or society in general or who have a history of problematic behaviour (addiction, violence, crime, mental illness, I would also add subscribing to problematic religious/cultural beliefs etc.) even if they claim they left that life behind. Don't ever date down. That alone will not protect you (see the other parts about domestic abusers being more educated than other murderers on average) but it will still weed out a lot of men.
FDS rules are not made up stuff by mean bitches. They are proven by studies like these.
Not surprising, I've seen a map pinned with murder statistics in my locality, and it was like half the murders were gang violence. The other half from domestic violence (the bulk of which are women killed by men). This doesn't even hint at my location, because I'm sure a lot of places have similar statistics.
The gang violence is why the total number of dead men is higher. But statistically, a man is unlikely to be murdered if he doesn't join a gang. Not that hard, right? The men don't have to beware of romantic partners the way we have to.
If self-preservation isn't reason enough, for the sisters who want children, male abusers will hurt and/or kill the children, too. Even if it doesn't go as far as murder, emotional scars are no joke, and children definitely can get those from having to witness men harming their mothers.
Women don't realise how dangerous it is out there. That's why I don't do casual sex either, you really don't know who you meet and what masks they are wearing. The jealousy and control doesn't always only exist because you are in a relationship with them. It's a fundamental part of their personality.