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One of my biggest turn off are men with bad table manners, With dinner you can tell if he’s hygienic, messy, stingy, raised properly, ect.
If he doesn’t pour your glass full before he refills his own then you can tell he’s self serving, If he doesn’t pull your chair back so that you can sit, or he decides what you will eat, or if he puts a pie and gives himself the bigger piece and your piece is much smaller, or if he annoys you during dinner then you got a glimpse of the future. Men can’t change until changing works in their benefit, never because they disappoint you so by having dinner you will see for yourself how your life will be with him in the future and you don’t need to be fortune teller for that.
I don’t know if a picnic or BBQ dates are FDS approved but a dude wanted to have a BBQ date but I’m expected to bring my own food and drinks.. Nope, goodbye.
I settled for a picnic and and he came with a cucumber while I packed tuna sandwiches, sushi, drinks and crisps, I thought he would do his part but he fully relied on the things I would bring. Bye.
I was friends with a dude and I treated him for dinner in my pickme days and he picks his teeth after dinner instead of excusing himself and use a toothpick with his back turned for example.
I was like.. 😑
Really good points! I’ll add that it can be worthwhile to eventually eat out with the family of someone you’re seeing for the same reasons. The father of one of my exes behaved repulsively at a restaurant when we ate out together. Boorish, gluttonous…I was disgusted. We had gone to Bonefish and I got a pasta dish that I couldn’t finish, so I took it back to their place for the next day. The father scarfed it down while I was sleeping. I later found out he was so gluttonous that his wife had to hide mayonnaise from him because he would eat an entire jar in one sitting.
I‘ve found that observing a man’s father and how he behaves can be a good indicator of how the man has been raised and what his value system is like. Unsurprisingly, this ex was too selfish to go down on me and never took me out.
a cucumber 😐😑😐
I went to dinner with this guy years ago, and the way he ate was so neanderthal like? No poise, just stuffing food in his face like a caveman. That was it for me. He never got a 2nd date.
I would love a picnic date if we at least both bring a selection, but if he doesn’t explicitly state that he’ll bring stuff for you, it’s a no.
A well planned and thought out picnic can be a nice date imo. But it needs to be thought out like bringing a nice blanket favorite cheeses and fresh baguette favorite beverage name maybe even having it all in a cute basket. He should make it look like something out of Pinterest lol
Who tf brings only a cucumber to a picnic? 😂