Description of how bisexual men may date women for convenience

I won't go anywhere near a bisexual male. The very thought of him with another dude makes me dry heave. Not to mention I was abused by a malignant narcissist/sociopath a few years back and he constantly cheated on me with both men and women and trier various gay positions to sexually abuse me (all narcissist men are bisexual, every single last one of them, another reason to avoid bi men). He also constantly asked about anal sex cause that's the type of sex they prefer with men and I constantly refused to let him sodomize me. That's when I knew he was cheating on me with men behind my back. These men are f*cking disgusting and deserve to get every possible disease that exists and waste away alone. I'll never have any empathy or sympathy for a bi male and any that approaches me will get shut the f*ck down immediately .

This entire screenshot seems more like a "down low" man who is not openly out and proudly bisexual but is pretending to be hetero and secretly sleeping with men.

The problem is that too many lie and pretend to be hetero, particularly within the Black American community. They then sleep with men and their partners can be susceptible to STIs.

These men are not in the open and will never inform their wife/girlfriend or date they are even bi but prefer to mislead and deal with men in secret.

So it would be challenging to actually turn them down for being bisexual, unless you immediatley suspect.

ETA: and that's the real issue, it's easy to turn down a bisexual man, but how would you know if a fake hetero is bi unless someone tells you?

And also, these men of the older generation or raised by that generation do not necessarily use gay dating apps or the internet.

Not the ones my age - who grew up without internet during childhood, (and I'm in my 40's). Keep in mind these older men especially might but they do not need to.

In comparison, the younger generation of men has less reason to hide their sexuality. Not saying they do not because in certain cultures, Islamic, Hindu, Black American, Testigos de Jehovah...the men do so at any age.

I am saying that there will usually hardly ever be obvious signs of second phone number or a gay dating app, if they are pursuing you. These men have "situationships", sometimes for years.

My generation spawned "rumors" of "allegedly" closeted men who are not such as Russell Simmons, Tom Cruise, Bobby Brown, Hugh Jackman, Eddie Murphy, Jason Statham, P. (Puff) Diddy, John Travolta, Tyler Perry, Keith Urban, Jamie Foxx, Jeremy Renner, Dr. Dre, Rod Stewart, Ye (Kanye West), Garth Brooks, Ryan Seacrest, too long a list ...etc.

But for generations men (Liberace, Oscar Wilde, Richard the Lionhearted, Cary Grant, Tab Hunter, Tony Perkins, King Edward II, King Umberto II, Paul Newman, Rock Hudson, Rudolph Valentino, Vincente Minelli, Spencer Tracy, Peter Allen...) had always hidden their bi- or homo- sexuality until they didnt have to or in Liberace's case until death...and this was before the internet.

Women are fooled all time with down low men.

(Or in some cases, some make "arrangements" because the man is honest with them.)

A guy I dated identified as bi, but I always think he's just softening the fact that he's gay. I mean, what else is the reason he keep seeking male partner in twitter while dating me? At the end of our relationship, he told me he still want to marry me later in life, but then Idk why it slipped from his mouth that he will still have gay sex even after he got married. Crazy. I don't want to deal with bisexual man anymore, one experience is too much for me.

Yeah, the bi guy I married feels like proof that bi men in general don’t respect or care for women in their lives just like any other man, I think we live in a culture of misogyny so it definitely isn’t just bi guys, and are just excited about the role that men get in Hetero relationships and what that means for them and their image to outsiders

I have so many examples of a bi guy simultaneously wanting to be “the man of the household” while also wanting me to act more dominant in bed, use strap ons, contribute equally financially while I also do all the housework and a lot of the mental/household work of keeping pets because he’s got such low hygiene standards, to field social interactions with anyone and everyone because of his poor social skills and anxiety, etc, all while stressing just how much he wants to be the king of the household

🙄🙄 I don’t even want a traditional marriage or relationship, I thought that because he was bi I wouldn’t be dealing with shit like this but I am and I have to deal with him constantly pressuring me to fulfill whatever parts of dating/fucking a guy he’s missing out on by being with me