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Hi ladies,
Long time lurker, thought I'd share a quick tip I've come up with to make one aspect of vetting a bit easier.
So on Hinge you can add prompts to your profile, yes?
On mine one of them is "our first date would be:
A) coffee and a walk
B) escape room and dinner
C) homemade picnic and a surprise"
Any of the men that respond with the coffee option, instant unmatch.
For Tinder or anything without a prompt/poll option I would suggest putting the same thing into your bio but phrase as a question; this makes sure they're reading your bio, and you can sift through the dumbest of LVM super quickly.
Hope this helps!
I love talking about food. I do it even outside of the context of dating. But I find it specially useful for dating.
I have a sophisticated palate, I love ethnic cuisine, fancy spices, fine dishes.
This establishes that I am NOT someone who will be satisfied with a cheap meal at a fast food restaurant.
Many scrotes also take this to imply that I will cook for him. I used to be annoyed at that. Then I realized that it's a great tool to weed them out early on.
I think there should also be a fill-in-the-blank type option so that men can potentially elaborate or show that they have maybe an even better idea than the ones you pre-selected. I also don't think it's a great idea because HVM will want to take you on dates that appeal to YOU. Without even knowing you yet (ie, what if you're claustrophobic or hate the idea of escape rooms?), if he were to choose the escape room option, it would be purely selfish or not indicative of his real potential value. First date options should never be from the cookie-cutter, and by having this question you're setting yourself up to allow cookie-cutter date requests (you gave 3 ideas when it should be on the man to come up with them and figure out what you'd like). Hope that makes sense.
What if they pick C?