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What should a vetting pipeline for dating out of town look like?
I can see that after talking over FaceTime the first date would be him coming to your town and taking you out on a dinner date.
Obviously you never go to his hotel room, the same as not going to any man's home until much later into dating.
It sounds reasonable to spend more time together on subsequent dates, but don't become a tour guide. What do you think?
What is the best progression?
They have touched a bit on that subject in the podcast. Now I want to give this a go since there are more men and much higher income in my neighbouring city.
not sure if you'd be willing but i do have a few suggestions:
1) pretend to not have done much in your town and suggest you both look for something together (make sure he does most of the research)
2) pick locations off travel websites or tripadvisor even if reviews aren't fantastic. if something goes wrong, he'll show his true colors
essentially, don't bring him to the places you enjoy until you're absolutely certain he's earned the privilege to co-exist in those spaces.
Do you want to take them to one or two spots that you like in your city? You don’t need to be a tour guide to take them to a couple of favourite places. It should also be up to him to pick somewhere using google maps and ask if you know of it and like it.
I’ve literally never dated anyone from my city (just because there’s no one here for me). It’s always guys from other cities nearby. I make them come to my city and we choose a restaurant together. I don’t really care if it’s one of my fave spots or not as I don’t care about who sees me😂😅
I’d like companionship ideally in my town but I’m open to a guy living an hour or two away (esp since the state I’m in has all the culture and more people in the southern part). My question is how long should that go on? What’s a good middle ground for seeing each other to keep the connection fresh?