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A friend of mine (let's call her Irene) was telling me how her mum's female friend (let's call her Rita) wanted her nephew to meet her (Irene).
My friend's mum (let's call her Debra) asked Rita to tell her more about her nephew. She wanted to find out his age, occupation, where he lives, what he looks like, etc. Rita sent a picture of the guy but never mentioned anything about what he was like and what he did. Irene asked Rita again to send her more information about her nephew, thinking that Rita just forgot to reply to that part of the message. Irene told me that Rita stopped replying and after some weeks, called her mum to talk about other things. She never mentioned her nephew again.
I say all this to say: be wary of anyone trying to set you up with a guy. A lot of people know that the men they want to set you up with are complete losers but they'll try and set the two of you up anyway! People don't always have good intentions so beware!
I've always felt that if a man needs to be set up with a woman then there's usually something wrong with him. While that may seem unfair to men, women, in general, tend to bring a lot to the table and find it difficult to meet decent men because the average man is a waste of space meanwhile, as there are more decent women than men, it's much easier for a man to find a good woman to get into a relationship with.
Just something to remember!
Two of my family members have tried to pull this stunt independently from one another on me. It never works out for a reason.
I had a "friend" once try to set me up with her HUSBAND. They were separated but still living together because he couldn't afford to leave. He had stopped working long ago and just slept on the couch. I was like, did you forget that I know how useless he is?? She just tried to make him my problem!
I've come to understand over the years that when people say they want to set you up with someone, they're really trying to pawn their loose trash off to you.
Ick. I hate when people try to set me up, and I cant imagine its much more pleasant for men either. Nobody likes taking somebody’s word that you’ll find some stranger attractive or interesting. Combined with the complication that a mutual friend adds… its just ick.
I feel like people do this because they can’t stand to see you being single and being happy about it so they try to put you on to same level as them. I generally don’t like it unless I really trust that friend and know she is aware of the differences between a man being lv or hv.
I honestly don’t trust most of my friends’ and family’s taste in men. A friend tried setting me up with her husband’s best (and only) friend, knowing he wasn’t my type physically, was still working at Dominoes (I’m a healthcare professional), AND he was a pothead. I told her several times that I wasn’t interested and she kept telling me to give him a chance. I never did. Other pickme friends kept cajoling me to give chances to complete losers. Another friend tried to set me up with her husbands brother, though we weren’t each other’s types. And last, my mom and uncle tried setting me up with one of my uncles friends. He was so awkward and about 50 pounds overweight. I agree that it never works for a reason, and do believe they just want to bring you to the same level as them. And not always in a good way!
I'm convinced it's affirmative action for lonely men nobody else wants. 😂 yuck. We are not rehabilitation centres for lonely men!
A parent's friend tried to set me up with their nephew and described him as tall and handsome and a Christian with a good job. They wanted the first meeting to be at my parents friend's house with all of the family present. We took a walk on the beach and his parents were literally right behind us. This guy was actually tall but he also had a lazy eye, was overweight, and not an open-minded Christian like me ( over emphasis on women's modesty (ew), pro-life, and anti-gay marriage). Ugh I was such a pickme that I actually went on another date with this dude. I should have cut it off after the beach date/misled appearance. This was a few years ago, I am more and more FDS aligned every day!
I played this stupid game ONCE and let a co worker talk me into meeting the scrote. Talked him up like whoa and when he arrives he sits in his beater car, doesn’t come out, is grotesquely fat, wearing a backwards cap and shaved head. Walked away immediately and never took anyone up since. The brainless pick-me co-worker then tried to insult me by telling he he told her “no loss” LMAO. I was in great shape and still am, look good, dressed like an adult woman (because I am) and here she was negging me on his behalf. I laughed in her face. Oddly she didn’t want to chat me up much after that 🤷♀️