Be careful how you break up with a man

I was once out on a date with a man (huge Redpiller, go figure). When we were alone he confronted me about how distant I was acting and I finally just said I didn’t think it was going to work. He’d been an obnoxious asshole the whole time we were dating and I couldn’t take it anymore (of course I didn’t tell him this last part). He *lost it* on me and started screaming at me, demanding I tell him why. I was certain he was going to start beating me but he didn’t. He calmed down after a few minutes.

Thankfully I got out of that, but when I told me dad about it he told me to never break up with a man in person again. It’s funny how so many men will admit how dangerous men are once they have a daughter.

We don't owe men a "proper break up." It's not like they do the same for us. Men are usually very passive aggressive about it. From what I witnessed men usually:

1. Suddenly ghost a woman or give her the cold shoulder. The woman is expected to put two and two together. If the woman tries to contact him for some closure or to ask what's going on she'll be labeled "crazy" or "obsessive"

2. He'll start dating another woman but gaslight his current girlfriend into thinking "they were never that serious anyway" and that she's overreacting and crazy.

3. He'll start acting like a lv scrote or start deliberately neglecting his girlfriend's needs so she'll break up with him instead. Then, he'll act like he was the "good guy" that got his poor heart broken by an "evil woman"

4. He'll say he wants to have a "break for a while because he's going through a hard time or needs to work on himself." What he really means is he wants to sleep around but "not technically cheat", have his ex wait around for him then bring her back into his life when it's convenient for him or when hes having a dry spell.

What are your thoughts on ending a relationship via text?

Reddit strongly opposes it, but I don't get it. Personally, I'm okay with a guy breaking up with me through a text message(or women breaking up with their boyfriends over text), whether it's after a month or three years of being together. It's like ripping off a band-aid and it saves me time.

Block and Delete is FDS standard for a reason. My life changed infinitely for the better when I really embodied that we do not owe men break ups.

I recently bailed on a plan to break up with someone face to face and did it over the phone instead. And thank GOD. He was so pushy over the phone, there is no way it would have been safe face to face. The reason I bailed on that plan was because all the date ideas he was coming up with involved him driving me to remote locations, and he'd started reading way too much into what I was saying interpreting it as me being more into him than I was (and being pushy with those interpretations too) and I was like, lol, I'm in danger.

It's interesting what other commenters have said, no man has ever given me a good break up.

I broke up with my ex-fiance on the phone because I feared for my safety. He and his mother both told me that was "unfair". 🙄