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Bad handwriting is a pet peeve of mine. In the Western world, we are taught from middle school onward that "handwriting shouldn't matter". This is advice for clowns, and anyone with an ounce of social intelligence would realize it is bad advice.
I consider it low-class and inconsiderate for a man to have poor handwriting. Small children can be excused, as their fine motor skills have not developed fully, but a functional adult man should not have illegible or particularly ugly handwriting. Poor penmanship, in the absence of a disability, is a sign of lack of consideration for others.
We cannot all be calligraphers. But a grown-ass man who refuses to make his penmanship legible and somewhat pleasing for other people is telling you to your face that he does not care about your comfort. It is low-effort and low-value.
This might be a controversial standard, but it is my standard.
Whoa now. "In the western world... we're taught that handwriting shouldnt matter" Tell that to my teachers from American kindergarten through American high school! Lol I've always had bad penmanship. I always got bad grades for it. I had to do extra homework. I really tried, even as an adult I've been determined to improve my penmanship. I just can't, I'm telling you, I just cant.
When it really matters - if I'm writing soemthing that someone else is going to have to read - I can write neatly in short bursts if I really pay attention and take it slowly. Even then, it'll take me a few tries. I think that should absolve me from being accused of being inconsiderate. But when I'm writing for my own eyes - chicken scratch all the way.
It's just one way men refuse to grow up. Bad handwriting isn't a deal breaker in and of itself but it can be a sign of low expectations towards himself. Men are already coddled enough, they have to hold themselves to a higher standard to make up for it.
OMG someone who finally has my same opinion! Ever since I was a young child I've been praised for my beautiful handwriting. And I've I always thought ppl with bad handwriting were just...unclassy? Like It felt nasty to me. I remember being in 2nd grade and working with a boy who had bad handwriting. And it just...gave me the ick. On the bus home I promised myself I would never marry a man who had illegible handwriting.
I've kinda always associated men (and even women) with bad handwriting with the brutish type of masculinity, if you get what I mean? Like it's just so unevolved and dirty.
I was always told that a girl needs to write neat otherwise it will look bad on you as a lady. Even when I quickly scribble a phone number down I feel bad because it’s not written neat. This is why ill never respect men who benefitted from pickme households because men can get away with more than women In every single household.
Now that you mention it and the more I think about it, I don't know that I've ever known a man with decent handwriting
This post is absurd
I think some people treat having bad hand writing as a flex, like "I care more about the content of what I write than superficial stuff like the bubbliness of my letters". It's definitely a gendered thing - every dude I've met has chicken scratch (like the pointy letters with tiny circular bits if that makes sense) while lots of women who were a little too self conscious and obsessed with their appearance (especially in high school) had overly bubbly letters. Two sides of the same coin IMO. Women should probably unlearn all the social conditioning that makes them constantly surveil every single thing they do even down to how they write their b's and o's and men should probably put a teeny tiny bit of effort into writing legibly and not showing up with cum stains on their shirts.
😂 after a long while of tolerating terrible male handwriting, i developed a strong enough spine to call those scrotes out. sometimes not directly or outwardly because staring at the paper they wrote on for a few minutes with a slight frown is enough to make them squirm, apologize and translate.
HA this reminded me of a guy I was friends with in high school. (Read friends as: he kept asking me out and I kept saying no, but I kinda had no choice but to be friendly with him since we were in this smallish group of the "high achiever" kids and had all our classes together.)
In literally senior year of high school our English teacher could not decode his chicken scratch on assignments he wrote in class. She was kinda stumped because she didn't want to tell him to type them at home because that would defeat the point of being able to do the assignment in class without the internet and whatnot. So this guy tells her "oh no worries, Lola can read my handwriting". So she asked me and I confirmed, yes, I could. Then the rest of the year I would spend lunch with her on days we had in-class assignments in that class, re-writing his tests so that she could read and grade them. Sometimes she would just let me grade them.
For a different class he got the teacher to get a laptop from the computer lab so he could just type in class while everyone else hand wrote things.
This guy has perfectly fine motor skills and no learning disabilities or anything. He's just a fucking lazy writer and would rather cause multiple people tons of inconvenience than just to write better.
Everyone I've met since with chicken scratch has the same energy.
I have terrible regular handwriting but I'm really good at calligraphy.
(Not that shitty modern calligraphy - I can do it, but vastly prefer Gothic style with an inkwell.)
Where am I on this continuum?? lol
I once wrote in a colour changing pen on a quiz that was not going towards my grade to be a pain in the ass to a teacher I did not like.
100% penmanship matters.
I have bad handwriting and take a huge issue with pretentious jerks who still rely on graphology. Y’all no different than crazees who believe in phrenology, the MBTI or horoscopes.