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Everyone probably knows by now, that women are pressured to look good and are valued based on our appearance in this patriarchal society. However, males often gets away with being unkempt and disgusting. It's time we hold them accountable!
Women often try to look our best to make a great first impression when it comes to our everyday social life and dating. So why do some of us let sloppy men in our lives? Idk about y'all but I did when I was younger.
We should never have to teach a man skincare, hygiene, grooming, fashion or convince them to please please please moisturize their damn cactus paws before touching us.
If a man "likes" you but made 0 effort in his appearance. Smellin like fermented piss, penny nickel dimes and celery sweats. It's a clear sign of disrespect because he KNOWS he can get away with it especially in a relationship and WHO TF DOESN'T WANNA LOOK THE BEST FOR THEIR CRUSH??? Sloppy men apparently. He will expect the woman to give him hygiene advices and weaponizing it for our emotional labor. These are the men who WON'T FUCKING CHANGE for the woman he claimed to "love" even when it could affect her sexual health (stinky dick cheese and nails dirt anyone?🤢🤢🤢🤢)
Most of us already know that we should not date nasty mfs. But some pick mes out there would fall in love with bums and clean after them in hope of being "wifey material". Dating males like that when I was 14-16 and went through all the labor of shaving my entire body for sewer rats and hoping to please them was such a low point in my life. Now I would rather shit in my hands and clap than pull up in Tom Ford perfume just for men with bowl cuts that clearly doesn't suit them, ashy knees, hotdog breath, BO scented body and pants sagged to their ankles to have access to my heart.
NASTY ASS MALES WOULD PROBABLY MESS UP YOUR PH BALANCE TOO!!!!
If he won’t take care of himself, he certainly won’t take care of you. The term “husband” involves caretaking as in “animal husbandry.” Most men these days are not husband material, as they don’t take care of anyone or anything. You couldn’t even trust them to feed a cat much less a child.
I find it funny that in nursing school we constantly had it hammered into us that douching is bad... but no word on unwashed d*cks? I mean, yeah, we learned about the usual STDs, but what about infections from just plain old bad hygiene?
Side note: I had an ex-boyfriend who used to talk about how his best friend would purposefully not shower for days before sleeping with women, because he got off on them having to taste his d*ck cheese! These men do it on purpose, Queens! They think that little of us.
That's why I no longer feel ashamed of being attracted to a very few men/a high level type of man who takes the time to take care of himself in the appearance department. I don't give a fuck anymore if society deems me shallow for this. No, he can't change his height, but he can certainly hit the gym. He can find nicely tailored clothing for himself to look good in public. He can get a fucking haircut and take care of his facial hair. He can shower and put on deodorant and cologne. He can maintain good oral health. These are all literally taught to us around junior high school.
He doesn't need to look like a GQ model, but I need to see the effort. If I don't see it, he's kicked to the curb and idgaf about it anymore. We deserve partners we can be wildly attracted to, darn it!
I'm dying with your descriptive writing sis 💀
You're so damn accurate. Cactus paws, fermented piss, nails dirt, sewer rats, ashy knees, hotdog breath, BO scented body. The imagery alone is enough for me to stay away from all men. 🤢🤮
I'll keep this handy list whenever I need to kill any attraction to any man. HAHAHA
The bar is low when it comes to male appearance. Apparently getting well fitted decent clean clothes, a nice haircut, good hygiene and well maintained facial hair is too hard and men who actually do these things are seen as going above and beyond. Meanwhile women have to jump through hoops shaving, waxing, plucking, and other beauty routines just to look "normal".
Yes! Keep in mind that men who make good money but still dress sloppy and have poor hygiene are statistically likely to be sociopaths and narcissists. It’s also a red flag if he refuses to look after his health (no check ups, refuses to take important medications, won’t go on special diets for food intolerances or diabetes, etc).
Wearing dirty clothes, not bathing, stinking to high heaven, and even neglecting basic hygiene is a symptom of negative schizophrenia (the non hallucination kind that can present as severe depression). Poor hygiene and poor dressing can be a symptom of many of mental illnesses (as well as general incompetence) so it’s very much a red flag when vetting romantic partners.
I remember thinking pheromones played a role in why I would like a guys smell for a few months, then something would smell off about them after a while. I think it might have just been that they were more careful about being clean in the beginning to impress. either way it don’t matter with that I guess, because someone smelling unpleasant is reason enough to stay away!
a lot of guys seem to wear really ill-fitting clothing. there is also something about only wearing shirts with superheroes on them that is a nope for me even if they fit good, seems childish or something. I really do love the look of a well-dressed man, and it is somewhat rare to see!