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Another reason to leave at the first sign of disrespect... HUGE epiphany.

We recently had a good conversation going on here about men who treat us like crap, don't like us, etc. but then when we dump them, they still resent us like we were the big meanies....

A conundrum I'm sure we have ALL dealt with at some point.

But why do they do this? Aren't we just giving them what they are asking for?

If you pay close attention, men only care about other men in this world. Mainly, competing with them or backing them up (bro code) when they do something awful.

So in that line of thinking... they do not want you to be with anyone else, even though they pretty much hate your guts and can't stand you. They look less appealing both to women and men when they don't have a woman by their side. Men don't want a single, lonely weirdo for a friend, either. They want to be seen with men who easily attract women because it makes them all look good.

Even though he hates you, you were the social status and the trophy that added value just by being around him. Other men respected that he could land and keep a woman around. Women were also more open and friendly to him because he didn't appear as a lone weirdo.

He gained so much out of you being around that it is probably impossible for him to let those things go. So if you're ever wondering how women are the table or how we up the value of a man just by associating with him, there's a piece of your answer. The world in general is WAY more accepting and kind to a man who has a woman at his side. This is what it is about for them. It's not about YOU.

Men will absolutely abhor your guts but still want to keep you around for these MAJOR benefits.

So, let's say you stick around. The stress of the relationship is going to harm your looks, your sense of self worth, etc. After he sees these things have been fully accomplished and you've been dwindled down to half the girl you once were, he will probably then discard you because he knows you are less likely to land someone who would make him jealous. He also doesn't want to be seen with you anymore because he sucked all life and light out of you... So, sure... at that point, he will be glad to get rid of you. He will be glad to send you out into the world damaged, heartbroken, stressed, traumatized, and with your self-esteem totally wrecked... which all absolutely means you are then less likely to find a great partner and a better man than him. He wants to send you back out as "damaged goods" with tons of trauma and needed recuperation time (I don't agree with the term "damaged goods" for women, but I'm speaking through a scrote's eyes).

So, the next time you feel confused about why he was so bad to you but then resented you for the breakup, just remember this... he is pissed you beat him to it and he's pissed you have the chance to find better than him with all of your looks and sanity still in tact. If he's resentful, he's just mad he couldn't suck the life out of you before eventually kicking you to the curb. You stopped his game, his LONG CON, in its tracks and he doesn't like that...

In other words, you won.

And as always, the earlier you can do this, the better. Just another reason the first sign of disrespect he shows you should always be his very last.

Get out before he does more damage to you. Get out at a time that means you will need very little healing time. Get out before your self-esteem is wrecked. Get out before he traumatizes you. The earlier you do this, the faster chance and more time you have to meet a great man who is willing to treat you like gold.

I'm not saying it's all about finding another man quickly (it's obviously about saving yourself, first and foremost), but..

NV scrotes DO NOT want to see you move on to another man and look happy and healthy while getting treated right. The earlier you get out, the more likely you are to find this.

The only thing I've seen that ever truly hurts a man is when the girl they dated moves onto another man. Men only care about other men..... Don't let him waste your time in finding one who is going to treat you right and don't let him sabotage your chances of finding one by sending you back out into the world as a complete and total mess who needs tons of healing time.

This is their game! So it is in our best interest to get smart about this and understand why we leave when disrespect is served the first time.

An awesome FDS post about why second chances should NEVER be granted...

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/s/USObbx73xs

Further proof from a man himself that men really only do things to look good to or compete with other men... he's talking about those ridiculous fugly muscles from gym rat bros, but you can start thinking like this about men with anything and you'll see that it rings true every time. In my 39 years of being alive, it's all I've ever seen them truly care about. I have so many different stories and examples, but that would be a whole other post...

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DENXhrfNztP/?igsh=eWE3YnowbzhsOXRt

Stay safe and stay smart, ladies!

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Glistening Nebula

Mar 10

I learned to never ignore my gut feeling. The little slip ups, the subtle sign of disrespect are sneak preview of how he truly feels about you. As soon as disrespect is served towards women or me then I know that it will only go worse from there. I’ve experienced it myself.

I can forgive but no more access to my inner circle. People do make mistakes but it’s not worth finding out if it was a real mistake or him seeing with how much he can get away. If you are not afraid to lose me then I’m not afraid to walk out.

Crying, whining and begging does not bother him at all, except for the sound of your heels walking away without giving him a chance to say something.

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FlameThrower

Mar 11

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One time an ex of mine told me that men don't take whining and talking seriously from women because we sound like barking Chihuahuas to them at that point. He said men tune us out when we go into that mode. I just never looked at "JusT CoMmUniCAte" the same after that. He was a jerk, but he had a lot of weird moments of his mask slipping and telling me little truths like this here and there.

I even beg to differ that men make mistakes like being rude and disrespectful like that to us on accident... they are super self-aware and they generally would never risk a bond they actually care about. In fact, they don't risk anything in life that they care about.

Glistening Nebula

Mar 11

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I dealt with a person who is too much of a cowardly goon to just admit it’s not working out and it’s better if we both move on, he started becoming hot and cold, the hot moments where he probably felt guilt or try to glue his nice guy mask on to make me look like the difficult one, putting the ball in my court to win his approval and interest back and anything I did was boring to him. While all I ever want was have him treat me before all of this. But we all know with the nice guy act is that it always slips after the one year mark.

I really started to hate men at this point. They mistreat you or become disrespectful or hot and cold just to push you away. And then when you suggest to remain friends then all of the sudden they act like they are Jesus and they did all of this to save me and that they steer away from negative ppl ( Yeah the depression you caused me is me being negative) and from that moment on I went on rage mode. I called him all kinds of names and I kept going for weeks, all the things I kept quiet about fearing that I might seem difficult was poured out and all he could do is feel sorry for himself saying he’s a nice guy and I’m being nasty and abusive to mutual contacts. It appeared I wasn’t his only ‘target’ as more women came forward about what kind of piece of trash he is.

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FlameThrower

Mar 11

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I think you touched on one of the hardest parts of being a woman and following FDS in general.... it is ENRAGING when they flip the script like this and it is incredibly hard to keep quiet once this game starts. And then once you notice so many of them do this and it wasn't just a "one off" with one guy it can be especially maddening... It's a true test of our will to keep quiet at that point, block/delete, walk away... The natural urge to defend ourselves from the script flipping like this is hard to shut out.

I honestly had to work on it for many years before I got it to stick. Even still, to this day, I have to talk myself out of flipping out on a man when he's wronged me and flips the script like this. It's incredibly hard.

I've never dated a dude who did NOT flip the script like this after treating me like s* and I realized it had to be me who did the dumping....

You're lucky people saw his true colors in your example... in most situations, all of our mutuals ended up agreeing with the man who pulled this s* on me. I was always "the asshole" and always lost. Another very infuriating piece of being a woman... we are never believed. If it's man vs. woman, everyone sides with the fucking dude...

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Unknown member

Mar 15

I can relate so much to everything you say here. I'm so glad I found your post - it helped me detox from a(nother) day of getting blasted by delusional red pill garbage (male self-victimization) about how men give so much to women only to be treated so poorly. While I'm sure there are exceptions, I have witnessed women suffer far, far more from abusive scrote behavior than the other way around. You articulate what women face so beautifully. Thank you for posting.

FlameThrower

Mar 15

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The brainwashing and covert + overt abuse that's done to us since birth is insurmountable in comparison to anything that a female may do here or there to some random men. Don't ever ever buy into that bs. We've been beaten down for centuries. Did you know it was only in 1988 that we were able to take out loans without a man's signature backing us up? That is not that long ago at all. I was two years old when we gained that freedom...

Wherever you're getting blasted with RP whiney man bs, I would remove yourself immediately. Surround yourself only with likeminded women, content, etc. Find things and people that are truly only FDS-aligned. The world gets brighter when we don't let that stuff infiltrate our heads.

Unknown member

Mar 10

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YES!!!!!

Another reason to leave at the first sign of disrespect... HUGE epiphany.

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