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This is going to be a quick little reminder.
Let me tell you something about “busy”. My boyfriend works full time, commutes two hours every day, manages his own household and finances/admin stuff (duh), has two cats to take care of (on top of that, recently rescued a lost kitten and took care of his emergency medical treatment for a week), actively plays in a chess league and attends practice every week, volunteers in his community, plays the piano, gives music lessons to two separate kids regularly, shows up to every single social event in his and my family/friend circle even if it's a two or three hour drive, prepares gifts and cards for said events, provides regular guidance and support to an autistic teen who is really lost right now, will do most of his own home repairs, does creative stuff like 3D modeling on the side when he can, and he STILL finds the time and energy to be a present partner, i.e. text/call me, listen to me ramble and offer insight and comfort, run errands for me, drive me around, go on dates with me, make meals for me etc. “Too busy” is a lie.
A high value person has their own full life, yes, but when they're looking to be in a relationship, they will make room for that relationship. Because they realize that it can only grow given sufficient time and loving attention.
Drop every man who lowballs you because he is "busy". He doesn't want you.
I used to fall for this lowball and I'm sick of it, I just block and delete
I'm busy means he's not interested but doesn't want to lose his nice guy status. and I notice whenever I get rid of a dude who lowballs he immediately has time to call several times and send several messages to talk about this.
Lol bye,
Could not agree more.
Mine owns 2 business, has a kid (50/50), has a dog, manages all his own household and financial shit, is involved in 5 charity organizations where we live (on the board and involved in the day to day), does a ton of work on the farm his elderly mother refuses to move off of, and is always running around putting out fires for some exceptionally deadbeat extended family (and planning their weddings apparently haha).
He's always made time for me, never takes too long to respond to texts, I just bought a house and he's been fixing it up at random times during the day. Literally I go over and some new random thing has been fixed or upgraded. He came with me to see all the houses on the short notice this market requires because he's better than an inspector. If I ever call him and tell him I need him, he's there.
Granted he doesn't get as much sleep as he probably should. I try to head-scratch him to sleep when he's over to Netflix lol, works 75% of the time.
This is real shit right here!
No matter how busy someone is, they will always make time for people they want to see. If they are ghosting you, or not being consistent with their efforts, you should just call it quits. The truth of the matter is that these guys are very capable of making time for you, but they choose not to do so. If this happens, just block, delete, and move on to the next guy.
Thanks @PlainSimpleTailor for positive HVM representation
All the men I know and grew up around are lazy and use women as workhorses. They'll still want the authority to act as head of households and all the credit that comes with it. When they make the bare minimum effort to do stuff, they pretend they're doing others a favour but really it's for their own ego gratification. Basically LVM losers.
Yep, I dated a high value man once. He always had time for me. Unfortunately, he had learned from his parents that relationships are supposed to have a huge fight every 2-3 weeks. Such a loss of a good man! It didn't last.
Very nice, how'd you meet?