10 Clichès cheap men LOVE saying

I have had these narratives thrown in my face by men who wanted to financially and sexually exploit me, and I would fall for it every time. Fuck "equality", it's a scam for women. It's all equal only when they want something from you.

If i wanted to pay for my own food, i’d eat by myself and bring a nice book.

Ooo I like this. So with my boyfriend, I'm still vetting him, of course, since you never stop. But at this point I'm pretty damn sure he's at least not cheap/has a provider mindset. There's a couple of these that he has, himself, given the FDS refutation of, either in words or actions (since when I started dating him I was still new to FDS, a bit uncomfortable accepting things because I didn't feel I was entitled that since I was financially stable myself, and he had to reassure me it was okay).

1. He enjoys paying and providing for me because he likes independent women, he wants me to be more independent, and him investing financially/not being a leech helps me do that. He wants me to be in the strongest position, mentally/emotionally/financially, so that he knows I'm choosing to be with him because I really want to.

2. He gives his ex wife more support than he is "supposed to" because he still respects her as the mother of his child and wants his child to have a good life, and still supports her mother and brother financially when they need it.

3. I tried this a few times, he was confused and insisted on paying.

4. Encourages me to treat myself, have nice things, gets things for me when I've expressed interest in them.

5. Realizes the concepts of overall equity, unpaid labor, and that he needs to earn my effort/presence.

6. See #1.

7. See #9.

8. Consistently tells me he appreciates all the things I do and recognizes their value, including things more immaterial than unpaid labor.

9. Understands that ambition, intelligence, success, and ability to provide stability are attractive traits that men should have, and that financially providing is a way he shows he has those traits - the two things are super correlated and can't really be split up. In other words, I'm not with him because he has money or because of "things I get", but because of the character traits that those two things demonstrate.

10. Has literally told me "you deserve a lot", "you should have incredibly high expectations of me", etc.

1 and 9, I think, are the biggest refutations of the scrote logic as far as actually explaining to other women.

Edit: I'm not saying this to fellate him. I just know I've always found it helpful when there's a "green flag" example to correspond to red flags, so I know what to look for instead of just what to avoid. Because avoiding the bad is just neutral, not good. In my own FDS journey, I started out having really no concept of what "what I deserve" looked like. Like I could identify "this is bad" but I didn't know what "good" actually consisted of. And specifically with 1 and 9, I think it's good logic - like it definitely makes sense in my mind and helps me be comfortable accepting things.

I still think she's a pickme. When she got heat thrown at her way she immediately deleted the video.