credits: https://sonyathomaslcsw.com/relationship-green-flags/ P.S. I have also decided to start my own blog! It’s stil just in development and right now is just my previous forum posts, but if you’re interested feel free to check it out here: https://femcurrent2.wordpress.com

Link to scale - https://irp-cdn.multiscreensite.com/754bc0f1/files/uploaded/3%20BURNS%20RELATIONSHIP%20SATISFACTION%20SCALE.pdf Disclaimer: credits belong to Dr. Burns link on official website: https://feelinggood.com/relationship-satisfaction-test/

I don’t think I would ever take (or publish) intimate photos because of the risks involved - also, thank goodness publishing someone’s intimate photos is illegal and a crime in many areas Edit/Update: I honestly love that she sent his threatening messages to his family (exposing his creepy beha

I feel like this mindset has definitely helped me with the fear of getting into a bad relationship or situation - knowing that 1) I have options, and 2) I can always walk away. Yes, I know this is very basic FDS, but wanted to post as a reminder/pick-me-up in case anyone needed. P.S. I have also

This is a mindset shift that has helped me with dating and honestly life in general. I used to often stress if I had feelings for someone, were we soulmates? Were we going to be together forever? (In my defense, I was quite young and I’m still quite young, being in my early 20s.) What I’ve learned

We recently had a good conversation going on here about men who treat us like crap, don't like us, etc. but then when we dump them, they still resent us like we were the big meanies.... A conundrum I'm sure we have ALL dealt with at some point. But why do they do this? Aren't we just giving them

So I matched with a guy who didn't have his profile fully filled in. Not sure if he removed it after I swiped or whatever. The kids part was empty. So I asked him, hey, I only date without kids, and your profile is empty regarding that. He unmatched. Ofcourse he probably had kids. My abusive ex lie

Apart from him only offering lazy dates, wanting 50/50, wanting you to come to him, what other signs are there? Here’s a detailed breakdown of the signs, manipulative tactics, how to address him, and warning signs to watch for when you suspect a guy might be dating other women or keeping you on a r

Don't be fooled, ladies! Which one are you? Which one do you want to be? Dating 101: How Men CATEGORIZE Women

I don't mean men who go on 4 hour-long coffees during a week, then plan a second date with the one they like best. I mean men who string these 4 women along, kissing, having sex, future faking and then supposedly " choose" her. Because if they need that much time to see her worth, they'll lose it as

Men with youtube channels, a popular blog... they are so delusional and think EVERY woman wants them. They will treat you like crap.

I have noticed that I feel attractive when I am on my own or in the company of friends or my daughter. But when I was in the presence of my ex boyfriend I felt weirdly unattractive/ uncomfortable in my own skin. He never did anything to give me that feeling. He told me often how attractive I was, bu

For context I stumbled on FDS in 2019 after seeing hate posts on Reddit- this of course was after a years long journey of trying to figure out why dating was a series of disappointments at best and at worst untenable “compromises” in a transactional “relationship” (if it ever got that far). FDS is

... because they don't need them. Therefore, it makes no sense to look for them there and waste your time scrolling through tons of scrotes. There. That could be my whole post but I'm going to elaborate a little: Imagine a HV man. Attractive, accomplished, intelligent, financially secure, generous

Men who lie about being gay/ abused by a woman as a child? Idk a few years ago a guy lied about being gay to gain my trust and now recently. I guess this is more common now? And the past 4 months? 3 different men all told me very soon after meeting me that they had been sexually abused by women.

All credits go to Monknotion on Instagram P.S. I have decided to create my own blog and put my writings on there! If you are interested, please check it out: (right now it’s just my previous forum posts) https://femcurrent2.wordpress.com/2025/03/25/vetting-applies-not-only-to-dating-but-to-nearly-e

My friend, who I’ll call A (also from my previous post), has been taking psychology this term as a requirement for her medical degree, and we actually discussed how a lot of the psychology principles she’s been learning and doing in class actually align with a lot of what FDS advises. Chiefly, the g

I’m a young woman in my early 20s, and I found myself, for the first time in my life, with disposable income in the recent couple of years. I’ve done a good deal of online shopping, and honestly I had an epiphany that vetting principles really do also apply there as well • know what you want -

A while ago, I had a male acquaintance who took quite a while to text me back. I found myself making excuses for him- “maybe he’s busy, maybe he meant to text back, etc.” Now, I don’t do that, and I wish I hadn’t engaged with him in the first place. If he wanted to text back promptly, he would’ve. I

A girl vacating in Aruba went missing recently, she was on vacation with friends. The first camera footage is her drinking with friends at the beach. The group was 6 girls and 2 guys. At some point they walked home but she was left at the beach with a 24 year old tourist guy they had recently met. T

Sorry, this is gross but it's the truth, scrotes will jack off to women online. There's this trend among sellers where they do live shows - to sell whatever goods, trinkets, clothes, etc they have for sale. Think of whatnot ans poshmark shows, for example. I used to be friends with guys in high

Last fall I had a match who told me he did Radical Honesty. I asked him if he would also be honest if that hurt anyone. Like if someone were happy about a new dress but you thought it was hideous. He said feelings didn't matter. Instant block. I had forgotten about it until I saw it pop up in a diff

Why? 1. He has no incentive to marry you if you give him wife treatment as a girlfriend. FDS is clear about this. 2. You combine finances without legal protection 3. If you give up your house, you have zero protection if he decides to kick you out. You give up your place, you're dependent on him.4.

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Arrests.org First click on the STATE. Then click on the MAGNIFYING GLASS IN THE BLUE BAR at the top of the page under the words "Arrests.org" to enter the info. Do NOT click in the middle of the page where it says 'arrest records search,' that is an ad for truth finder.

After being an OLD user for a decade now. I would like to share my few learnings after a lot of trial and error. Detailed Steps: 1. Make sure you are in a good place mentally before you start this because this road is tough. Know yourself. Get therapy, heal from previous trauma beforehand. 2. Hav

Cannot even describe how it feels to be with someone who fits my aesthetic preferences (I don't mean in the incel fantasy "6'4" chad" way, I mean has an intact hairline, actually cute, good body, dresses well, takes great care of himself physically) and who I don't have to jump over mental hurdles t

This woman is so smart. Her content is FDS material, it's precious. The entire video is great. Especially the part at where she talks about marriage and family-oriented men who say they want to be providers. I used to see (and hear in the podcast) that men should be in their masculine energy, and wo

I see posts here along the lines of: I'm seeing this potentially HVM and things were going great, but I think I've spotted a red flag... What do I do? So this has prompted me to create this thread to help us put together some info about how spot fake HVM (also known as LVM). I'll start! An easy w

This is what I learnt when men/women call another women this nasty term. This term isn’t a really stigma with men. In fact, other men will probably congratulate men for being taken care of by a woman. Whenever I hear people calling other women “gold diggers”, I instantly respond with a simple, “so?”