Cannot even describe how it feels to be with someone who fits my aesthetic preferences (I don't mean in the incel fantasy "6'4" chad" way, I mean has an intact hairline, actually cute, good body, dresses well, takes great care of himself physically) and who I don't have to jump over mental hurdles t

This woman is so smart. Her content is FDS material, it's precious. The entire video is great. Especially the part at where she talks about marriage and family-oriented men who say they want to be providers. I used to see (and hear in the podcast) that men should be in their masculine energy, and wo

I see posts here along the lines of: I'm seeing this potentially HVM and things were going great, but I think I've spotted a red flag... What do I do? So this has prompted me to create this thread to help us put together some info about how spot fake HVM (also known as LVM). I'll start! An easy w

This is what I learnt when men/women call another women this nasty term. This term isn’t a really stigma with men. In fact, other men will probably congratulate men for being taken care of by a woman. Whenever I hear people calling other women “gold diggers”, I instantly respond with a simple, “so?”

I have been dating again and iam coming across alot of mid 30s late 30s men who get absolutely desperate moving the relationship too quickly for forward coz they want kids . It’s such a scary thing . I don’t mind if they express they want kids at some points but some of these men were fuckinv around

This is public service. HOW TO VET THE MEN IN YOUR LIFE - A YV_EDIT TIKTOK COMPILATION

In this video, Dr. Ana lists the 10 types of abuser based on the book 'Why does he do that?", which has been mentioned here in our community countless times. I thought it might be useful to post it here. Doesn't replace reading the actual book, of course. Abuse expert lists the 10 faces of abusive

The video introduces a new concept I had yet not heard about: Food digger, where restaurants pretend to be people in dating apps and invite you to eat in their business. You go, your date never shows up, but you're hungy, so you eat there anyway. But wait, there's more: some men now let chat GPT do

Ladies, is it a red flag if a man uses this specific terminology to comment on modern dating dynamics? His commentary was basically about too much easy sex making men lazy, which is partially true not considering there were always lazy alcoholic men who needed to be controlled by bosses, sergeants,

I'm not sure if this has been posted before, and I'm now a sometime reader. I binged on FDS when I found it on Reddit, and have kept up with the podcasts (I miss them!). I'm now logging in every few months to catch up, so I'm here, but just dip in occasionally. First of all, I've noticed that in ch

A new study by SmartAsset finds the average wage needed in the US to live a comfortable lifestyle is $96,500 for an individual and $235,000 for a family of four with two working adults. “Jaclyn DeJohn March 19, 2024 While cost of living premiums and inflation metrics capture the price increases in

Some men out there are capable of being good fathers; others are just interested in making your life harder and keeping you down for their own benefit. If he wants kids, be careful you're sure of his reasoning before agreeing to conceive with him. If you're a woman who wants kids, you must ensure to

Listen y'all. If a man truly likes and respects you, and if he's truly a HVM, he will NOT comment on other women around you. He will not check out other women around you. You will never have to doubt that you're his first and only choice. Doesn't matter if the most beautiful supermodel is standing i

Never try to be the “cool laid back mom” when it comes to these things. Just because the boy’s parents promise “they’ll keep an eye on both of them.” or “make them keep the door open” doesn’t mean anything. Once that door closes and you leave that boys family to take care of your daughter you basi

OLD is strongly discouraged in FDS, for good reason. Most men using OLD are scrotes just looking for easy sex and to cheat. However, I still use it, as do many others in this forum. While I believe meeting a man organically is the ideal situation, my main reason for using OLD is because it helps me

For context I stumbled on FDS in 2019 after seeing hate posts on Reddit- this of course was after a years long journey of trying to figure out why dating was a series of disappointments at best and at worst untenable “compromises” in a transactional “relationship” (if it ever got that far). FDS is

... because they don't need them. Therefore, it makes no sense to look for them there and waste your time scrolling through tons of scrotes. There. That could be my whole post but I'm going to elaborate a little: Imagine a HV man. Attractive, accomplished, intelligent, financially secure, generous

Men who lie about being gay/ abused by a woman as a child? Idk a few years ago a guy lied about being gay to gain my trust and now recently. I guess this is more common now? And the past 4 months? 3 different men all told me very soon after meeting me that they had been sexually abused by women.

I’m a huge football/soccer fan and a year ago, I read about a goalkeeper who’s looks had changed permanently because of a footballing accident he didn’t address on time. While rushing out to get the ball, the oppositional player kicked him in the nose. The accident was so bad that the bone at the t

I came across the Instagram profile of a guy I had connect with during the time I did my master's degree. We met at a party and clicked but as usual, he ended up being a complete waste of time (surprise, surprise) and we stopped talking. He has a girlfriend now and he posts photos of her and him a

You know how you randomly have cringe moments pop into your head? I had one last night about the time I was too nice to a guy I had a crush on in university. It’ll always be something that makes me cringe when I think about it. For my master’s degree, there were a lot of group assessments that I ha

Hi there! It’s possible many of you already do this, but I’ve found a ton of value by joining my local Facebook group, “Are We Dating the Same Guy.” Women post pics and first names of scrotes who have lied, cheated, abused, or have other toxic problems, to warn other women to stay away. You can se

I am sick and tired of all the gaslighting generated by men 24/7 in order to get us under their service. Everytime a guy is caught doing something really messed up and isn't forgiven for it (because they usually are), they resort to their "I am dumb" jocker card. What is worse is that we as women,

Because I broke up with him. So I called his mom, and told her. And I certainly did not respond to him. Ladies never fall for this. Whether the threat holds water or not, call his friend or relative, call the police or emergency line, send help his way if you feel compelled, but do NOT reward hi

Her's is one of many similar stories out there, of falling victim to con/mani pulation/con trol tactics etc... A long watch, but a good one. Prevent being caught out, or get validation for when you did (fall victim/or prevented it)... She talks about her experience in the yoga world, however this

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12970783/amp/Saltburns-Barry-Keoghan-Bears-Jeremy-Allen-White-Hollywoood-heartthrobs-ditch-long-term-love.html It's been said on FDS before, but never EVER be a man's Barb the Builder. No matter what you do for him, no matter how successful he becomes lat

Most people have middle names, but rarely use them. Narcissists (and serial killers) are self-important and love the sound of their full names. Looking back, my narc-iest exes always did this. Lesson learned.

I'll spoil it for you: Comedian Matthew Wallen Taylor's bit on the message that men receive when women write a list of what they don't want in their dating profiles. He says it tells men what you have tolerated in the past and will likely tolerate again. The Queens were right! 🙌👑 https://www.in

I have been seing so many feminine self proclaimed coaches teaching during the commitment stage there will come a time when man will pull away coz he is scared and we as ladies should give him space so he can come back sorting his feelings out . I don't know after being on fds i would rather not hav

This subject has been discussed here in the past, but I think it deserves a refresher. The video is about how a scrote will go as far as BEG you to have his baby, he'll promess he'll be there, he'll be a provider and a good father. He'll try everything he can in order to trap you into a relationshi