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On my relocation journey through the U.S. I have noticed a few things we should all be wary of:
Moving to a city that is a slower pace for you and being alone. You will be subject to loneliness often and may choose men that you'd otherwise not consider because of that. If you've never been alone or lived alone this may be really difficult for you. Many men from these areas find women who are from metropolitan areas fascinating and it's a win for them to attract such a worldly woman but will slowly turn down your voltage so that you will become like the women in his town and generally stuck in the house with him and his family. The mind control will be slow because you need to trust him and love him and then it begins from questioning your attire to how engage with others. Your time will be spent with him and his family and you will find yourself engaging with other women / friends less and less.
The mind hive of local women. Women in certain regions are less outgoing and more competitive for men (pick me on steroids). These women do not wear makeup or nice clothes and dress themselves down for the satisfaction of the men they are dating - to cause less attention to themselves. Visiting a restaurant to meet new women, one of them suggested I dress down because they don't do "that" in this particular area. Of the 12 women not one spoke up. And for them, dressing up was a sweater, skirt, and booties...my next point ---->
Be very careful not only of the men you meet, but WOMEN. So many women lure other women into traps and use any information about you to entrap you. When you are new and meeting people be mindful of where you are going and refrain from night time activity until you are more familiar with your new locale and activities in that area. Try meeting people during the day.
Some women are coerced into poly relationships and they are required to find the third party. Understand and accept that some women are there for sexual purposes just as men are. Be careful whom you have a drink or break bread with and watch your drink/food!
Some women are sexual predators and want to turn out a heterosexual women in the same way some gay men seek the same opportunity with hetero men
Women are traffickers too
Be careful not to take group trips with women you have no prior friendships especially out of the country where the laws may be lax and your friends and family may have a hard time coming to your rescue
Leaving your social net and community and travelling or moving to a new one is always a risk and one that it rarely mentioned or discussed these days. Not being "the stranger" / "new person" / "tourist", knowing the local rules (even the unwritten "we don't do that here" ones and weird customs) and having ties to the community is something that protects you, wherever you are. It makes you part of the herd and other members of the herd will be a lot more likely to protect you or look out for you than they will be for a stranger. That's just biology and instinct.
It's also a completely different experience to move or travel to a place where you can pass as local (at least until you open your mouth and someone hears your accent or you tell someone you are not local) than it is to move or travel to a place where you will stand out as a tourist or stranger at the first glace (e.g. travelling to India or the Middle East as a white woman). It puts a target on your back that says "she doesn't know her way around and it is likely that nobody will miss her (at least not very soon)".
That being said, you also need to be wary when you meet your own countrymen abroad. Being from the same place can quickly create a sense of false intimacy and bonding and predators know how to use that to their advantage.
at 20 I would have thought you were crazy for writing this. Now I know better.
Wish I'd gotten this FDS knowledge and information like this before 30 and before moving around a lot. Oh well you live and learn! The younger generation is lucky they have this knowledge in 2024, info we millennials born in the early 90s didn't have yet.
This is great advice, thank you!
As an older woman getting ready to relocate, I appreciate your insights.