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I’m in my adventure phase. There are places that I want to go to. My parents are worried I might not return and they keep telling me to put this off until I get a boyfriend, but I think they’re completely absurd. They keep scaring me into not going and create barriers for me to not go.
For context, I have never travelled, or even left my state alone. I always had my parents with me, but they’re getting old and they don’t want to go anywhere. I have no friends to travel with, because I spend most of my free time alone.
Some of the places I want to go to before I get old is:
Japan
Italy
Switzerland
Australia
Iceland
Taiwan
Hong Kong
Singapore
Fiji
South Korea
Ireland
United Kingdom
Antarctica
France
California, USA
Washington, USA
Utah, USA
NYC, USA
Banff, Canada
Vancouver, Canada
FDS, what is your advice travelling alone? Do you think it’s possible to go to these countries alone? What would you advise for first time travellers? Should I take it slow and start going to places closest to me? What should I do to get myself ready for solo travel?
Also, idk if my race plays a factor into me being abducted (according to my parents) but I’m an Asian women in her 30’s but I look young for my age lol 😂
Your parents are weird. What do you need a boyfriend for??? I have travelled solo for over 20 years so you can ask me anything. I am not attractive, though and I am not white so I don't get pestered by men, I am largely invisible unless they want to make fun of me...
You meet people when travelling solo - it's easy and people arrange to do things or you ask people where to go for a drink or good meal and they will invite you. It's much harder to do as a couple. I feel so uncomfortable around couples and it's hard to gauge whether or not they want to be around you or just with each other so I stick to solo people.
I live in the UK. Where in the UK do you want to visit?
I have only been to San Francisco, Sausalito and Los Angeles in CA. All were fine. San Franciscans are a bit wild but it's a good city. I would probably live there if I could get a VISA.
NYC was very noisy especially at night but that's probably what makes it special for some people. I found it overwhelming. I think American men are very different from British men and I see online there are lots of American women who are terrified of men breaking into their cars when they're in them, etc. so I can't help you with that. British men can obviously be violent but I don't think the threat is every second like in the US.
Rome was a great place, lots of great food and lots to do. I don't have any specific advice relating to Rome. I think the men are very forward if they like you and they seem to really like Asian women.
I do think if you are anxious, go to the nearest place to home that interests you, as you said. Test the waters. Make sure people who love you know where you are (I used to give my mum a mini itinerary and it was fun for her to know where i was and 'travel' vicariously through me). Make sure you're never in a situation where a man can 'trap' you. Always know how to escape (and make sure you have enough money on you to do so - different forms of money e.g. card and cash). Always take your passport with you (on your person). I tend not to leave valuables in hotels. Lock your hotel room doors. It's just the usual, really. There's no 'special' advice.
The first countries I visited were Middle Eastern countries because they're generally much more respectful of women, otherwise they'd be in alot of sh-t. My Asian friends (Indian, Pakistani) love Dubai and they have never felt safer than in Dubai. They walked around at midnight. I hate the city (shallow, superficial, showy, not respectful of its heritage, rude non-native men ime) but many like it.