Okay, so, allow me to explain: I am a very masculine female, maybe not in the physical sense (since I am kinda short and skinny), but my face still looks very masculine. I act masculine too, sometimes even a bit toxically masculine, gotta admit. I am bisexual, so while I'm also into women, my preferance is for men. I only like feminine men tho, by which I do not neccessarily mean dudes that wear skirts and pink, or whatever, I mean the guys that just sorta have that natural feminine aura about them. I guess I just subconsciously notice it, I look at them, the length of their hair, their face, the shape of their body, at the way they move, walk, talk, act, all of that.
And obviously, as the masculine person in the relationship, my duty is to be the giver, the provider, and all of that (off topic, but seriously, those self proclaimed "masculine" "alpha" males who want their wife to serve them are the least masculine creatures to exist, like, bro, ur supposed to be the one giving her your everything, NOT the other way around). Which essentially means that I am always the one to make the first move, to text them first, to compliment them every chance I get, to buy them flowers, write poems for them, and serenade to them under their windows (which usually requires me to stalk them to find where they live, but being the courteous woman I am, I always inform them about my odd shenanigans). And logically thinking, if the man is feminine, he must want to be treated like a princess and be admired by a knightly masculine woman. YET, Such rational train of thought seems to crash upon meeting reality. Which is where my problem arises.
All of the very obviously feminine men that I've tried to charm have not only rejected me, but sometimes, straight up found a very feminine girlfriend for themselves, while I was clearly courting them. It is preposterous and completely ridiculous. It is like they dont know what they need, and what they truly want. A relationship consisting of two naturally, fully feminine or two naturally, fully masculine people cannot be actually healthy and fullfilling, yet those fools seem to not want the absolute perfect match for them (me). Absurd. So, dear ladies of FDS, do any of you, perchance (I am aware that I can't just say "perchance"), know why do feminine men seem to not want masculine women that could actually treat them well?
My ex is a very passive, feminine man. He married an assertive doctor, makes very little money at a dead end job and lets her support him. He just rides along. If I think about it, he did the same with me - rode along on my energy and ideas, until I got fed up and divorced him.
But she’s kind of a weirdo (according to my kids who have spent time with her). She worships my ex in SM posts, and acts like he hung the moon. Me thinks she doth protest too much (I did the same when we were together - I was lying to myself).
Anyhoo, they each seem to benefit from the relationship. And they’ve now been married 17 years.
So it’s possible.