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I've always prided myself on having the highest of standards -- I've been on lots of dates but always removed myself from the situation before I got too involved if something didn't sit right with me.
I met someone last year and we hit it off. It was very slow at first, he took me out to nice dates, paid for everything, and was just very consistent with his communication. He asked me to be exclusive and his girlfriend about a month and half in, and when we were LD for a while, he called almost every single day. I've met his dad, he introduced me to his friends, yada yada yada.
When he got back I noticed that his communication was off. We're both doing very demanding degrees and it's exam season now, so stakes are high. He still took me out on nice dates, we had lunch every other day together, and he even did a big surprise for me before he left. He's been away for a while now, and his communication is dwindling. He called me the first three days, but I noticed that if I don't initiate the conversation, he won't text me at all. Now, deep in my heart, I know the answer to this -- if someone can go a day without talking to you, they can go a lifetime without talking to you. I'm unsure how to approach this and I'm feeling confused and upset.
I've always keep my heart on the backshelf and that's what I precisely did when he was courting me, but I've realized that I fell and got attached now. My exams are coming up and I want to deal with this without a) screwing up my grades, and b) minimizing the trauma and pain.
I'm not saying this will be easy, but forget about him until your exams are over. Don't initiate ANY contact whatsoever and focus on your schoolwork.
Mute him on all channels, put your phone on DND, don't check his social media (if applicable), whatever you gotta do to not be reminded of him, do that. Any time you find yourself drifting into worry territory about him, start studying immediately to distract yourself!
Push him out of your mind until your last exam is complete! Have tunnel vision for now, then you can allow your mind to drift back to him.
Keep us updated and let us know if you pass! Good luck ❤️
Move on.. would you keep a car or a tv when it no longer works? No so why entertain a scrote? If he’s not afraid to lose you then you should not be afraid to walk away. It’s better to be alone than be used up.
“I'm feeling confused and upset” this is the biggest tell. Always pay attention to how someone makes you feel. I’d do what the other commenter suggested as well—focus on myself until the exams are over. Mute notifications from him on all of your social media and mute his number—focus on yourself and your studies until the exams are finally over. Don’t worry about not replying to him if he does finally reach out (and he will). If he was with not communicating with you every day for whatever reason, clearly having a constant communication with you is not as important to him.
You need to focus on your exams and education. If you don't, you'll regret it, I promise. There is no place for even thinking about what to do about him.