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Recently, I went to a government agency because they had my information wrong. The customer service representative refused to investigate and insisted that my information was correct. I had to keep repeating myself and pushing the rep to consider other methods. I wasn’t rude or disrespectful. I simply kept asking the representative to investigate.(And I turned out to be right—it was another rep’s mistake, and they did have my information wrong.)
Five minutes into the conversation, a woman(customer) being helped at the window next to me started berating me, telling me to stop bothering the rep and just go home. I explained the situation to her, but she said, “You should just listen to the rep. The way you’re handling this is not right. People are waiting behind you, and you’re being a bad person for making them wait.”
I told her she did not know the whole situation, and this is my 3rd time at the office, but she replied, “I don’t want to have a conversation with you. My husband is missing. Happy New Year. End of conversation.”
This isn’t the first time a woman has tried to tell me what to do. Maybe it’s because I often run errands alone. If I had been with my mom, dad, or partner, I doubt she would have said anything.
But seriously, why? Why do some women feel the need to pressure others into conforming to societal standards and being a “good girl” so badly? I’ve never seen men publicly criticize other men’s normal actions like this. Men always support each other.
I dealt with that, growing up as an introvert teenager I dealt with pickme's who just look at me up and down and judge me or snicker but when I see their sleazebag boyfriends I assume their judgemental attitude comes from insecurity. Women who judge other women come from an unloving home or their baby daddy sucks. I no longer take it personal since it says more about them than me.
Now that I'm a lot sturdier I no longer get these looks, occasionally I get them but when I march over there and ask them what their problem is they sing a different tune right away. They know who they can do it to.
Look them dead in the eye and say " mind your own business, nobody cares about your opinion'.
They feel the need to do this because they are so steeped in misogyny themselves, they can't imagine that a woman would have the GUTS to be forthright and bold.
You're holding up a mirror to them and revealing that weakness by just standing your ground (because they cannot do it) and it pisses them off.
Not only do scrotes constantly feel the need to "herd" us in public and dwindle us down, but so do women who only idolize scrotedom/the partiarchy.
F 'em. Sorry to her missing husband (if she were smart, she should probably be rejoicing LOL) and the pain she was probably experiencing there, but her bullshit does not mean you don't get to do what you went in there to do that day just because she is having a tough day. The world doesn't revolve around her problems and she doesn't get the room to pick on another woman because of it. Think about it... she would have never acted like that if you were a man.
I think it had nothing to do with you. Her husband is missing so she most likely is lashing out at everyone.
I think while this is happening in general, yes going places alone as a woman puts a target on your back for so many miserable pickmes. Just today I got back from walmart- I was minding my business and a lady approached me asking first of all if I spoke spanish. Then she asked if I was interested in work or a job opportunity like what about my presence and my demographic appearance did I look like I was begging?
honestly theres just a lot of crazies out there.
Oh yeah my long distance college friend I talk to regularly has been telling me she's been the victim of some verbal harassment and abusive people when she's running her errands. She's also a single woman that likes to from time to time shop on her own. It's like some people see single women about minding their own business and zero in on us.
I have no problem telling people like that, that they’re being very rude and should mind their own business.
I will take my damn time, because the customer service rep is quite literally there TO ASSIST ME, and as long as I’m not unnecessarily wasting their time (you were not, in this situation), everyone can wait just like I did.
It’s not your fault that the govt rep wasn’t taking you seriously, and you did the right thing standing up for yourself when you knew they had gotten it wrong. It sounds like you were very polite as well, just persistent, as you should be.
Sadly, I can relate. It's a shame some women are so critical, judgmental instead of striving to be more helpful and uplifting to one another, given all the shit we endure already. I wish I had more comforting words for you, but you are heard, sis. Try to rise above 💖
Everyone, male or female, chooses to take their anger out on the females they perceive as weak. That woman had big feelings due to her situation and she chose you as a target to make herself feel better because she knows, since you're a woman, that you are a safe target. People have chosen to do this to me my entire life. They look around for a female who is somehow below them socially to use as a punching bag.
I haven't noticed this as a pattern. You're saying women criticize random women in public in a way that men don't do to each other? But I don't really pay attention to how male strangers (strangers to me and to each other) treat each other. Is this a gendered thing or have you, unfortunately, just happened to encounter some cranky ladies?