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I was dating this scrote for 2 months and we ended up breaking up because the mask has fallen . I ended things because he said he wasn’t sure about the relationship and I ended up things immediately.
Anyways I forgot a pair of earrings at his house and I had asked him to bring them in our other dates but he always forgot.
When I dumped him for not wanting anything serious (which was in a polite way, I wished him the best but I needed someone who was sure about me) asked him if I could get my back my earrings, because they are mine, I like them and I wanted them back. He said “ok I will bring them to you or try to get you to have them back” and then he disappears. Pouff. I texted him again asking about it one week later and it’s been 2 days and he hasn’t even seen the message!
Yes I haven’t blocked him yet because I want my earrings back!
Seriously, this is unacceptable, it’s almost like a robbery!
I’ve been analyzing the situation and I think he probably is doing this to punish me and have control over the situation, since I was the one who ended up things in the first place and I think he wants to make me feel like he was ignoring me make me feel like garbage.
But a decent human being wouldn’t give back my belongings? I seriously think he must have mental problems because it’s a question of being ethically normal to give me back something that belongs to me!
I'm still waiting on an expensive earring from an ex I dumped in 2018. He said he was sending it...
Any day now, I'm sure it will be here. 🤣
OP if it's not expensive (mine was crazy expensive) or if it's not an heirloom or important to you in some other way... I would just let it go.
Your sanity and blocking this dude should be your #1 priority.
Editing to add: I know police officers will accompany you to retrieve your stuff from a guy's house, but I'm not entirely sure how this works as I've never used it before. You can look into it if the earrings mean a lot you!
I know this isn't helpful now, but in the future get everything back before you end it. I've learned this the hard way, unfortunately.
Just remember that men will do everything and anything to hurt you during a breakup. I've even had men tell me that this is what they do when breaking up. If they think it will hurt you, they will do it... Never put anything past them during a breakup! I've had two guys jump out of my car when I dumped them while driving... I know better than to be alone with them while dumping them now, but yeeesh.... Men are truly maniacs.
If they're expensive, I'd threaten to call law enforcement. I had a guy refuse to give me my shoes so I could leave, once.
They're like this.
thats crazy i hate when men think they have to punish grown adults because the scrote gets their feefees hurt.
Sorry you're going through this, OP, but let this be a PSA for the rest of us: DO NOT GO TO A MAN'S HOUSE FOR AT LEAST THREE MONTHS until he's been vetted properly and you're in a committed relationship with him.
You're not getting the earrings back, he's just using it as a way to get back at you. Take this as a lesson and move on.
A decent human being also wouldn't waste someone's time by dating them when he wasn't sure about them.
Lesson learned, right? Whenever you hear men say crap like "unsure, not ready for relationship, still figuring stuff out, see where things go", etc., do not expect him to be reasonable (or honest) about ANYTHING after that. Like returning your belongings.
Yeah, he probably does have mental issues because most men do. They only care about their own egos and this is his way of trying to "heal" his after getting dumped by you.