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I’ve used Tinder back in 2018 then I stopped completely. I developed a terrible view from dating apps and everyone who was there for me was garbage. I never ever wanted to use it again.
years later, this year, I was in a dinner with some single people and they were taking about dating apps. I proudly said "I dont use apps because they are full of terrible people". They all looked at me and said "oh really, because all of us in this table used or is using it and we are not necessarly bad people". There was even this guy sitting close to me that had recently found his girlfriend on the app and was proudly showing me one picture of her.
anyways, this stayed my mind and I decided to download Hinge (that I had never used) to see what's up, but I swear I was going against my principles and that was very uncomfortable for me.
incredibly I ended up matching with a man. He ticks all the boxes, is contant in communication and we really clicked. We've been on a few dates and I have been pretty happy but there is a demon on my head who keeps telling me "But you met him on Hinge, he wont take you seriously, he will broke your heart, its shameful to meet people on apps" and Ive been suffering because I know its a mix of anxiety and past trauma. I dont think its intuition because he is doing everything right and I dont want to "sabotage" this because I keep thinking its already failed due to my fear of how I met him.
What do you guys think about that? have you been in a similar situation?
ive been going to therapy to "break" the old beliefs I had that were preventint from finding someone and I think this has been such a hard thing to overcome.
I've dated a few guys off the apps but I just don't think it's for me. The men were actually fine, I've dealt with shit awful men in my own family so the men on dating apps were lovely and treated me great but what does that matter if it's the bare minimum? I come from a hispanic household so the latin men I interacted with are some of the most garbage personalities I've personally dealt with in a family dynamic. Father, brother, uncles- horrible people. But that doesn't mean I wanna settle for the first man that treats me bare minimum nice on dating apps.