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So, a month or so ago, I found out he's been masturbating to my senior photos.
This has split my family in half. Turns out, all he talked about was me to random family members, in like, a CRAZY obsessive way.
I think he wants to BE me.
I told him I never want to hear from him again and he acts like I'm being a "stuck up bitch." My SISTER told me that he won't stop talking about how I think I'm "better" than "them" as if me not wanting him to masturbate to me makes me bitchy. I don't think I'm better than my family. I just think he has permanently crossed a line. There has been no apology, but random family members have asked if I've "talked to him yet," like, fuck no, wtf? I want the dude to be dead.
My aunt found pictures of ME, covered in semen. She moved out and is on my side, but like, I NEVER fucking asked for this.
My aunt confided in me that she knew he was obsessed since she's been living with him for years, but she had no idea there was this whole fucking persona around hating/admiring me. Like, is this shit normal????
I wasn't a bad kid to my mom or him when I lived with them, and like, yeah, I wore makeup and stuff, but like, wanting to be pretty isn't like, bad.
He's a hardcore religious misogynist. I really can't understand that he's not PRETENDING to be this insane. Like, it's not a bit...
I have gross disgusting scrote males in my family that are similar. They think you're supposed to sweep it under the rug and be like awww shucks grandpa you're being silly.
no it's disgusting. This is what makes women unsafe in their HOMES. This is the statistic that was referring to women are more unsafe in their homes with their families than being away and estranged from them.
You are correct to keep your distance. Cut contact off him. I've had male scrote family members even my own pickme mother display disgusting behavior surrounding sexuality. My mom sometimes facilitated my dad during school pick up times in my high school years where she would parade the family car around the parking lot driving SLOOOWLY so my mentally disabled brother and dad could oogle and drool at the teenage girls. It was obvious. I also kept begging my mom to stop bringing my brother and dad on pick up times. She would ignore me. She knew what they were doing. I sometimes also think my mom has sexuality issues cause she would also stare and drool at the teenager and women dressed showing any skin. And my mom wasn't choosing to have the company of these men for utilization- whenever the car would breakdown or had issues they were completely useless. Meaning she LOVED having the company of a male around further proving her pickmeness.
My brother and dad also have a habit of thinking it's ok to openly display pornographic material or nudity on monitors around the house as if they don't live with other people. I'm itching to move out too. In ALL of these issues the one excusing all of these behaviors is mostly my mom. The caveat being my brothers or dad EXPECT women to just shrug and be ok with these behaviors. The women? Me, my mom, any strange woman that just have to tolerate them for whatever reason.
Without my mom or me they would be 100% alone.
Omg, I am so sorry OP. Cut off all family members who continue to have communication with him. His behavior should never be normalized.
I am so sorry this happened to you. I know exactly how deeply traumatizing and violating this is because the same thing happened to me except it was my stepfather caught masturbating to my pictures. I understand just how bad this feels and how deep the hurt and violation, if your family had more 'snap' they would be on your side protecting you. I absolutely believe that you want him to die and know how hard it is sharing the same earth with someone who did this to you. It feels no different than if he raped or molested you. And like you can't protect yourself, because he can do this without you even being present, it's almost feels like being drugged and raped because this awful thing happened to you without your knowledge or consent, and without you even being aware it was going on. Probably for years. Finding out that you were being sexually abused all along, but secretly behind your back. A terrible betrayal. This is not your fault. There is*nothing* a young girl can do to "make" her grandfather want to have sex with her.