I firmly believe that vetting doesn't stop at the beginning of the relationship.
Do you think it is worth it to make your man sign some contracts and/or an NDA in order to save yourself in the eventual post-relationship period?
If so do you have suggestions on what to put in?
Thank you in advance
You’re right, vetting never stops.
But I’m not sure what you mean by a NDA. I’ve really only heard of those when women are with famous slimy men and the men don’t want their secrets to get out.
If you mean it in a way that after a break up he can’t talk or post about you publicly then I’m not sure it’s worth it , it’s just a lot of work to stay on top of what an ex is doing. If you have lots of money for lawyers to do this for you- I guess?
I think some type of relationship contract (similar to a pre nup but without the engagement) would probably make more sense. But I’m not sure if that’s enforceable.
For me, I’d say it’s not worth the time or money to make a contract for every relationship that I get into. It’s just a boyfriend, they come and go.
Want to live together? Yes. Make a contract.
Getting married? Yes. Get a prenup.
But dating? Too much effort.
It’s your life though, so if you believe it’s worth pursuing, I’d say do it.
Realistically, what are you even talking about? You want to bar your ex from disclosing your proprietary secrets? "NDA" isnt just another way of saying "contract". Did you mean to refer to some kind of pre-nuptual style contract?
Having a pre-relationship contract would be so strange and outside of all cultural norms, I dont think I would want to date a man who would go along with it.
As long as the contract clearly benefits YOU and not him, sure. A man that gets cold feet at the prospect of the woman they're courting safeguarding her own comfort, and yes, even if it negatively impacts his own, is just a scrote, and you should steer away from him.
I mean that's called marriage.
Is it even enforceable tho
Do you mean like: “If you cheat on me, you legally have to pay me $5000”?
An ex-friend of mine signed an nda with her bf. This was like more of like for work purposes. Eventually she ended up working for him but that’s a story for another time. In that nda, she couldn’t talk about his work to outsiders. The truth was that it was all bs since we understood his shady lifestyle lol he was a “day trader” but we suspect he had shady dealings and gambled on the side.
Personally, nda mean nothing to me since there are so many loopholes. I prefer to not tell the guy anything until I see some form of commitment.
This has got to be a troll post. Come oooooon.
That seems like a bit too much. Unless you are running a business with your significant other, or you are married and want a prenup.