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Because they will try to gatekeep things they don't even KNOW about.
I'm trying to code websites, for example, and dudes who have NEVER coded ANYTHING try to talk down to me under the guise of helping.
I think if I were married, I'd just keep a double life so they can't suck the life out of me for their own ego.
Had a guy get mad at me for knowing how to change my own car battery.
And don't get me wrong, I'm not a tomboy, I love makeup, shows for the girls and things they can't typically barge in on. But things I'm actually interested in, they treat like a competition. I really can't stand most male personalities.
If a guy was into doing peoples' makeup, I wouldn't barge in and tell him how to do makeup that he's been doing for decades, or whatever.
There have been a few dudes who actually wanted to bond over similar interests, but most of them really think I don't have an actual personality.
I remember years ago I had something I held close to my chest, and a guy (not a romantic interest, but a friend of a friend i was spending time with at the time) wanted to know about it.
He really suffered bad with my rejection of his invitation to 'give his professional opinion/insight' on the topic. He pushed and pushed and I refused.
Later, our mutual friends came down on ME because poor victim couldn't take no for an answer and had his feeling hurt 🙄. As though I was cruel and my boundaries mattered none? They changed their opinion on me after that, and I changed mine on them too, sadly. I had held them in high regard but this was a blaring red alarm! Would they act the same way if he wanted something other than info form me and I said no?
FFS.
I'm SO glad I didn;t share with him.
Thank you for this reminder.