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A weeb is mad at me for knowing basic Japanese after I took four years of it. 🙃🙃🙃 (Super long post)

He's a druggie with no job, but wants "the Leela to his Fry." The typical guy who thinks he'd be romantic and good partner if the "right" woman came along.

Says he's a traditional type but refuses to settle down himself, until it's settling down into his day-nap druggie jizzstain blanket.

He gets donations online to be a brooding alt-right guy who is "the generation of men under hard times" but hasn't worked in a decade and sleeps 15 hours a day.

He blames women and minorities for porn (when White American males make up a disproportionate amount of porn producers).

I fell for him because of his personality, he really is dark and brooding, but he's so incorrect about SO. MUCH. and can't see the evil in himself, but wants to talk about the "evil" in everyone else.

He's a Scorpio, and can honestly see a LOT into people that others can't. But then abuses that power.

The reason I am so mad is because he presents like the kind of guy I would have genuinely fallen for. Like, the soulmate type. But then just ruins everything with ego.

If you're able to understand other people, why would you choose to let your ego get in the way.

I've had run ins with Scorpio men like this constantly, where I achieve something genuinely and they just can't believe it.

The dude is anime obsessed, and accused all women of lying if they say they like anime. I personally like SOME, but not in general, and when I told him THAT, he thought I was trying to tow a middle line to impress him. The last girl he was with LOVES anime, and he accused HER of faking it to impress him. (She wasn't, she's a total weeabo, in a cute way)

At first I thought he thought I couldn't have taken four years of the language while not being a weeb (self-hatred, btw?) he accused me of making up hiragana when I was writing it. Like, ffs.

Then I realized, he thinks that women who like anime, or take four years of a language, or do even basic web development either are faking an interest or don't exist.

Then I realized, HE is faking a persona on TOP of his dark and brooding persona.

Sorry for the long post, but this guy checks all the emotional boxes for a lot of women I know including myself, so for him to hate women this much while claiming to want a soulmate type is disparaging.

Maybe this post is what I needed to write in order to let go. I don't mind when a guy chooses being alone, but to disparage women and accuse us of being fake is telling.

It's fine to be mgtow, and it's also fine to look for a partner, but to oscillate wildly with an emotionally abused woman as the pivot point between two sides is cruel.

I wasn't about to jump through hoops for him, or not jump through hoops AS a hoop (I know that sounds convoluted), but to be attacked for being a positive archetype in his mind has done me in a little.

I used to LOVE feminine men who could really dig into how others feel, but they weaponize that in a patriarchy. Giving up on this kind of man feels like one final straw in me giving up on love completely, but there's no way to resuscitate past feelings without having some sort of zombie lovelife.

Everything is just ending for me in terms of wanting a male soulmate.

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Not Today

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I stopped after realizing nap in his jizz stained druggie blanket and I fell in love with him for his personality was talking about the same person... sorry girl, if youre really a girl, but i'd be embarassed to post this. You need to level up yourself cause this is just an insane level of desperation

FlameThrower

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So... you found ALL of this out at the very end, just before deciding he's not your soul mate? Riiight. 😂

Keep fighting it. You had plenty of red flags in your face early on with this one.

I know how sly guys are. I've dated way worse levels of these types. Our point is there were red flags and you didn't pay attention. Our point is you have low standards for who you are crushing on. Feminine and brooding? He's gonna need more than that to impress you...

The only positives you mention about him are very superficial and juvenile. The rest of his personality and lifestyle is trash.... those are the things we are trying to show you. You keep defending him as charming and some other weird shit, though... sis, what? How whipped were/ARE you over a guy you didn't date?

Reread the hell out of the handbook.

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Unknown member

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I'm probably better at FDS than you.

I found these things out and then distanced myself naturally, so yes, I found out these things at the "end."

I deal with manipulative men who hide their red flags very well. Not just assholes who are upfront about their personalities.

His POSITIVES were all he displayed.

You're expecting me to know things about someone that he didn't show at all.

Since you're so smart (you aren't, you just think you're better than other women), answer me this: how was I supposed to know about the blanket after a year of knowing him without being in his place? How could I have?

How could I know his sleeping habits? I didn't stalk him.

The red flags weren't there. And I'm not going to re-read the handbook. I've been part of FDS long enough.

The problem is that he IS charming. Lots of men with issues are charming.

How do you not know that? A lot of men, in fact, men with dark triad personality traits are more often charming than genuine men.

Do you think this can't happen to you or that if this happens to other women here that they should have seen red flags that were intentionally hidden.

Women like you are why other women don't want to come out with their trauma. You clutch pearls instead of seeing that men ARE smart and manipulative.

Men ARE capable of presenting a soulmate style persona while hosting a myriad of problems.

There are women who have been married for decades, only to find out their husband is a pedophile who watches child porn.

Hidden red flags are not easily discernable, and if you think they are, then you need to listen to the older podcasts that illuminate the fact that men are better liars than us.

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FlameThrower

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I know, understand, and have dealt with insane levels of all you are describing. You're assuming way too much, sis. My favorite was one whose nickname was "Evil" unbeknownst to me until it was too late and he had siphoned 10 grand from me. You're the only one making it a competition here (and failing miserably at it because I don't have crushes to begin with).

Unemployed was hidden from you? His awful personality where women can't be good at his hobbies was hidden from you until the bitter end? You're either lying or have absolutely no concept of red flags. The blanket was the least of it. You're missing the points everyone in the comments are making. Not all of it was so hidden. Regardless, you left all of this out of your post and then proceeded to defend him when we called him and YOU out.

Seek therapy. I don't think the handbook is enough for you (not that you're understanding or following that, either).

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Glistening Nebula

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lol Fry had a job as a pizza delivery but as he got stuck in the future with a whole cultural shift he might not be able to do that as his profession is taken over by robots. Hes even below Fry’s level.. yet he wants his Leela.. that dude is not only sad but petty too.

Unknown member

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Fry was fucking stupid as Hell.

Apple

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So… what I’m gathering is that, you’re venting as a form of closure. This guy is mad at you because you know more Japanese and you showed him up. In addition, you realized that he’s fake and potentially red pill.

Good on you; better late than never.

Unknown member

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Thanks, and yes. Sorry for the trauma dump.

It's insane that he thinks he knows more of a language I took four fucking YEARS of, just because he likes anime porn or some shit, idk.

Most animes are shitty, imo, except Studio Ghibli, and a few niche animes with actual stories that aren't just people being awkward.

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Unknown member

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My ex husband was a slightly more benign version of this ex of yours.

Unknown member

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He was just a crush I had.

I'm glad you got a better version.

FlameThrower

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OP I'm glad you figured it out, but I'm wondering how "dark and brooding" is attractive to you or why you think that equals relationship material? It's a good question to a deep dive on while you take some time to level up on your standards, because girl.... where are they?

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FlameThrower

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Are you.... defending him now??? Wtf. 😂

Unknown member

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I'm saying he had qualities that drew me in.

You honestly don't seem that smart.

How could I have had a crush if he didn't have ANY positive qualities?

Do you get crushes on guys who have absolutely zero positive qualities?

You aren't a good troll. You just seem dumb.

FlameThrower

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Keep telling your pickme ass whatever you need to. You are a trainwreck.

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Howhiareu

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Druggie with no job is all you needed to know about this guy.

A weeb is mad at me for knowing basic Japanese after I took four years of it. 🙃🙃🙃 (Super long post)

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