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https://academic.oup.com/book/44707/chapter/378972703?login=false
"The chapter makes a series of important arguments. The first part of the chapter argues that perpetrators’/fathers’ drive to gain control was the underpinning factor behind harms that they caused to both mothers and children—especially punishing and constraining mothers and children for supposedly “being bad” or “doing wrong,” and for attempting to gain independence and interpersonal connection with each other or anyone beyond the perpetrator/father himself. A key point here is that coercive control by perpetrators/fathers dominates entire homes, creating overarching conditions of entrapment and constraint that affect children as well as mothers. The second argument is that resistance was woven into the everyday lives of child victims/survivors. So, what might for example appear to an outsider to be an unexceptional bag of shopping, or an easily forgotten argument or tantrum, may in fact be part of ongoing efforts of resistance in which children make resourceful use of their limited space for action. The third argument, made in the latter part of the chapter, is that it is unhelpful to treat as two separate phenomena children’s experiences of coercive control and their experiences of abusive and neglectful behavior by the perpetrator parent. Perpetrators’/fathers’ abuse and neglect of their children seemed from the data to be part of their coercive control."
Thank you for this. My ex is an abusive meth addict. It took me 2 years to prove to the court that he was a danger to the kids. Even after I had gone to great lengths to prove that he was an addict, the judge's position was that "drug abuse is not necessarily child abuse". They suffered horrible damage during the time he had shared custody. He's now had supervised visitation for 4 years. I've been told if this was a foster care case, he would have had his rights terminated long ago. But because it's a family court case, he will likely regain some form of unsupervised visitation soon. It's terrifying.