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On a throwaway account for obvious reasons. I'm (44) a single dad to two kids "Audrey" (16) and "Emily" (12). We have a great relationship but Audrey can sometimes be rude and demeaning, saying cruel things casually when she's displeased about something or in a bad mood. Emily (her little sister) looks up to her, often mimicking her behavior which obviously worries me.
I cooked a nice Sunday dinner and Audrey stormed downstairs in a bad mood for who knows what reason. She was being a downer whereas Emily and I were cheerful. I asked her to improve her mood please instead of ruining the dinner, she turned to me and unleashed her anger. To quote some of her elegant words: "can you stop lecturing for once, you're annoying as f*ck and seriously you're the one who ruins everything".
I stood up, took her plate, and dumped it in the trashcan. I told her since she can't bother to show me any basic respect, she should start providing for herself from now on. She said she'll make cereal and maybe I was an AH, I said no that's my milk and she should get a job to get her own groceries. I don't feel like i yelled at her, I felt I spoke calmly but when she realized I was being serious, she got upset and started crying and ran to her room.
We haven't talked since. Obviously she's mad at me but now my younger daughter is mad at me too, saying I acted like a huge jerk to her sister. I of course don't see it that way, I don't tolerate being spoken to with such disrespect and it did hurt me a lot hearing Audrey say these things to me that were uncalled for.
So was I the asshole? Obviously not winning any "dad of the year" award but will I be winning any "AH of the year" award?
What a thin-skinned machild. Imagine starving a child because they said something you didn't like.
What gets me is the throwing away a whole plate of food. I don't know how he was raised, but I was raised to think it's wrong to waste food.
Why do I get the feeling the daughter is spitting facts? Odds are high he is annoying as fuck and does ruin everything. Even the tone of his writing is annoying as fuck.
Glad to see pretty much all the responses are roasting him. I bet he was like this with the children's mother ("I've paid for a meal so repect my authoritay", taking having normal human emotions as an indication of disrespect, "punishing" her for "disrespect" by withholding essentials, and generally being dismissive towards her feelings), and that's why they're no longer together.